[Senpaija]

I know there is a lot of people out there who has experienced something bad, mostly in the past, even all my friends have had a hard time, but I feel like glass that can't break.
My life has been so easy, I think it is a good thing, but I can rarely relate to other people. I don't know if it is confidence or pure luck that my life has turned out this way, but something caused it.

Have you ever tried that? Being the one person with a perfect childhood, lots of friends, a family with the needed money and so absolutely no lack of self-esteem. At least not most of the time.
I feel too perfect

[Turtle_Rider]

No. I ever been bullied, so I've got only few good friends and used to had low self esteem. What I have is family with good financial income, through not rich. But, I know lots of my peers who are like you.

I don't really understand you. Are you feeling down because of it?

[Sunflower123]

I think that's a good thing. You are very fortunate and are grateful I'm sure for the cards life has handed you. Enjoy it. I hope you continue to have good fortune.

[Thunder Bow]

Don't worry, no one is perfect.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Senpaija

I'd say it was a good thing too
So congratulations!!
But I'm thinking that maybe you feel a little alienated at times, "different" or "in the background" when it comes to some issues, as you say you don't feel you can relate to others as well??
If so, I'd say that you may be relating to others better than you think, because there clearly has to be a reason that you have lots of friends and I'm sure some of them must have been through some hard times or difficulties while you've been with them.........but they're still friends, yes??
I'd say that you don't always have to have been through similar to someone else to be able to relate to them on some kind of level or understand, if you have some empathy and make the effort to understand.........and I can't possiblly believe that you haven't felt some pain or hurt in your life so maybe that's kind of helped you a little in relating in some way??
And you know, everyone is different in their experiences anyway, and even if two people had been through exactly the same thing they may still have experienced it very differently from each other.........so I'd say that the key thing is listening to people and hearing them............which I'd say you probably have been doing much more than you think.
So, great things have been going so well for you........but if you want to talk more........

Alison

[ScientiaOmnisEst]

Originally Posted by Senpaija

I know there is a lot of people out there who has experienced something bad, mostly in the past, even all my friends have had a hard time, but I feel like glass that can't break.
My life has been so easy, I think it is a good thing, but I can rarely relate to other people. I don't know if it is confidence or pure luck that my life has turned out this way, but something caused it.

Have you ever tried that? Being the one person with a perfect childhood, lots of friends, a family with the needed money and so absolutely no lack of self-esteem. At least not most of the time.
I feel too perfect

Perfect? Far from it. But I did have an idyllic childhood and no financial problems. I'm still lonely, self-hating, and unhappy, even though I theoretically have no right to be.

[Senpaija]

I too believe it is good, but too the extention of feeling spoiled, rather than lucky. My past may make the future easier, but I don't work, I don't help very much with cleaning and my mom only makes it worse, because she points it out.
Its not like I don't want to work or help with cleaning, I just have a hard time memoring them. Sometimes I do run away, but I think anyone would when my mom sound angry.

I don't know if I'm understandable, but I do respect difference in people, as long as they are respectful and don't act like a spoiled kid. I'm not a spoiled kid myself and I rarely beg for anything, but somehow it makes me feel a bit outside when so many other people have a story worth listening too and then the normal person comes around and doesn't understand anything. I hate being normal, because then I get bored of myself. I tend to have less tolerance with boring people, which isn't positive I would say.
Sometimes I can spend time with the most annoying people, as long as it doesn't happen too much.

A good childhood is good, the feeling of being ordinary, not so much from my perspective. You can say I have a story, but from my point of view, it was rainbows and sunshine, meanwhile people with a worse life tend to befriend me.

[Agent Misty]

People who have experienced trauma and hardships at some point in life are the majority, not the minority. If your life is as sunny as you say, then the people you meet will often by default have a "worse life" as you say, than you do. You say your life is "so easy, too perfect, and have the feeling of being spoiled".. Not many people would describe their life to this extreme. So, it is not that people with "worse lifes" tend to befriend you. It is that most people have some handful of issues and hardship that define them so of course everyone else is going to look worse off to you. I also have great trouble believing your life is "so easy" yet you are "not spoiled". Those two things do not go hand and hand.

Also, experiencing hardship does not by default make others more empathetic and understanding of their peers problems, so don't feel so bad if you feel like you have trouble understanding some people. The fact that you want to understand their problems shows you are kind and want to have awareness for others. Not everyone has that, wether their life has been good or bad.

If you have no hard times dealing with important stuff, then that is fine. I had what seems to other "perfect life" from the outside, but my childhood has left me with many issues to deal with. I am alone and lonely and miserable most of the time, and have low self-esteem. I think exposing children to the hardships of life makes them stronger and more resilient. Easy life doesn't make things easy in the long run, at least in my case. Life is a constant struggle, and people must have the strength to survive and flourish.

[Monarch Butterfly]

You are very fortunate. Maybe it's hard to relate to others who have issues because you haven't experienced trauma or hardships? Correct me if I'm wrong.. iit sounds like you would like to be able to understand others?

[MessyD]

Having family and money around doesn't necessarily make it an idyllic childhood. you are self-hating? Doesn't sound perfect to me. Is there something causing you feel this way? Do you think it's possible you're missing something but it's hard to pint point what it is because on the outside it looks like you have everything you could wish for? Makes you look ungrateful if your not happy? You have every right to feel the way you feel. You could be depressed and not even know it. But I'm just talking here, it's late