[palsera27]

I have situation, I bought a car I Augusta of last year. I was pressured to buying add-ons by the finance manager. She did do her job but I disagree with how she did it.

Other buyers leave reviews about what a wonderful person she is I disagree. I feel that she's a horrible person. I don't like the she bullies people into buying things they don't really need. I feel she preys on the less fortunate and enjoys it. If I were to confront her about this she'd probably dodge the issue. I would want to know why she enjoys taking advantage of people who are less fortunate then her. However i probably won't get the answer and she'll lie about her motives to "save face". The is part of me that wants to go to the dealership and beat her so she'll know how I feel

Also this whole situation has manifested its self into a deep attraction to her and me wanting me with her.

[~Christina]

This happened over a year ago ? August of 2016?

If so you need to realize that holding onto this level of anger for so long is not healthy for you... Beat her up ? No violence never helps.

Do you see her often ? I dont understand your deep attraction to her if your talking Violence??? Im a bit confused

[palsera27]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

This happened over a year ago ? August of 2016?

If so you need to realize that holding onto this level of anger for so long is not healthy for you... Beat her up ? No violence never helps.

Do you see her often ? I dont understand your deep attraction to her if your talking Violence??? Im a bit confused

I don't see I haven't seen her since the day I bought the car. I haven't talked to her since February

Not sure if this is allowed but this link explains everything
https://loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/thread/18057

[~Christina]

Maybe you need a new Therapist?

I still am confused about such hate towards someone over a year later?! Why do you want to love her when you said you want to harm her?

Hopefully another Pc member will come along and understand all this , I just don’t get it, sorry

[Sunflower123]

This situation doesn’t sound healthy for you. Is there any way you can work on changing this in therapy? When I disagree with people I usually get quiet, sharp tongued and to the point or need time apart to regroup. I never want to beat anybody. Maybe I’m not getting it either.

[ReptileInYourHead]

I’m pretty sure she is doing it for monetary gain and/or job security. That being said, it’s really annoying and it really is a form of preying on those not accustomed to being assertive.
It’s a negotiation, it is a good skill to learn, life is full of them. You really just have to stick to your guns, no one is actually forcing you to bend to their will, just coercing.
I’ve been through it, I was mad too, but I later realized I was mad for letting myself get snowballed like that.
I still find that process annoying but now they don’t get anything out of me that I don’t wish to give...for the most part

[palsera27]

Originally Posted by ReptileInYourHead

I’m pretty sure she is doing it for monetary gain and/or job security. That being said, it’s really annoying and it really is a form of preying on those not accustomed to being assertive.
It’s a negotiation, it is a good skill to learn, life is full of them. You really just have to stick to your guns, no one is actually forcing you to bend to their will, just coercing.
I’ve been through it, I was mad too, but I later realized I was mad for letting myself get snowballed like that.
I still find that process annoying but now they don’t get anything out of me that I don’t wish to give...for the most part

I have decided to let it go and pray for this woman. Basically what I’m going to is kill her with kindness

[ReptileInYourHead]

That’s not exactly letting it go...

[TishaBuv]

This is unhealthy thinking.

You bought a car and got a high pressure sales pitch. You bought more than you really wanted due to that pressure. Now you have buyer’s remorse. This is very common.

But the unhealthy part is now you are obsessed with the sales person. You are sexually aroused and extremely angry at the same time. This needs therapist counseling asap, IMHO.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by palsera27

I have situation, I bought a car I Augusta of last year. I was pressured to buying add-ons by the finance manager. She did do her job but I disagree with how she did it.

Other buyers leave reviews about what a wonderful person she is I disagree. I feel that she's a horrible person. I don't like the she bullies people into buying things they don't really need. I feel she preys on the less fortunate and enjoys it. If I were to confront her about this she'd probably dodge the issue. I would want to know why she enjoys taking advantage of people who are less fortunate then her. However i probably won't get the answer and she'll lie about her motives to "save face". The is part of me that wants to go to the dealership and beat her so she'll know how I feel

Also this whole situation has manifested its self into a deep attraction to her and me wanting me with her.

Just let other people know about your experience and that they should be approach her with cautious. Express your concern to the company. Or you can leave anonymously tips express that you felt bullied by her and should you come in at a later date and she is there and try to do what she did previously you might consider seeking a lawsuit against the company for not watching her more carefully after they have been warn about her. She may not realized what she had done at that time. I am not using that as an excused but it may be a possibility. Sometime people think about how there action may affect someone especially if they never had that kind of problem.