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#1
Oct 27, 2017, 05:55 PM
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Friend advice
Have you ever experienced when someone was really mean to you and you haven't bothered to look them up and then you see a photo of them and you realised how ugly they look. That's what I experienced with looking at a photo of this person. Also it was a photo of that person we call Sophie who is friends with for example Bob and I'm friends with Bob too. Bob posted online a photo of himself with Sophie recently . What I notice was it had a lot of likes but what got to me was a friend I'm friends with let's say named Sarah liked it. But what I notice was Sarah never likes my posts and hardly anyone likes my post. So I'm wondering of this maybe sophie is spreading bad rumours about me. I thought maybe I should get rid of Sarah as a friend and Bob. I told Bob too much personal stuff and I'm afraid he probably has gossip about me. I dont trust them. Well from my experience with them it makes sense why I wouldn't trust them. I just don't want a bad rap because that means I make no friends because of Sophie. I thought about this because a friend of mine well we name him Andrew told me when I use to talk to him how he be told that even now sophie was talking bad about him. And happened between them probably 4 years a go now. I mean how do you get someone like Sophie to stop talking about you that it affects people how they veiw you or even make friends. I mean she could know someone if I study something and she tell them about me and spread bad rumours about me. I even apologise to Sophie more more than once. This happened 6 months ago. This all happened because I said to her "I don't appreciate the negative comment" and she went all angry about me because of that. Any advice? History with Sarah She bullied me at high school, had to change schools. Got that bad. Following year she come to my school. Because she was bullied (talk about karama) Sarah and I go to animation course . She meets Sophie at animation course who went to our school. I didn't know her. Sarah and sophie plus Bob builded me. I had to change desk in the class and got so unbearable I had to change classes in the animation course. Following second year of animation. I wasn't allowed to sit next to Sarah or Sophie. I wanted to mend things but I wasnt allowed to sit next to them. Lost contact for a while. But spoke to me online. I invited them to come to my short film. Never did. They hang out without me knowing. Sarah one point got angry at me because I changed my mind going to the Bush walk because I felt anxious. She ignored me . Forwards to present. Sophie got angry at me because I said I didn't like negivitie comment said about my art work. She never liked my art work on facebook even though I liked hers and he ever I showed her my art. She say simple things like I like the pens around the border. She would send me art to me and she say it's bad but them posted on her Facebook page. Abyway she got angry at me and I apologise to her more than once. Through Txt. I got rid of her as a friend on facebook and then add her again because I changed my mind. She refused because I heard through Andrew it was because I got rid of her as a friend in Facebook too many times. Which was just 3 times in the space I know her. When I was going through my love transference towards my therapist and I was struggling Sophie would say I'm a A dog with a bone in its mouth towards my therapist. Andrew told me that Sophie had a go at him because I spoke about situation between me and Sophie. Sophie said don't listen to her come and talk to.me she seeking acceptance. He showed me the conversation they had. I realised I told Bob that I spoken to Andrew about it. So how would Sophie know? Well I thought logic idea would be Bob told Sophie. I asked Bob but he said no that you can put two together and it's obvious. I asked Bob could he talk to Sophie since Bob offered apparently he did and he told me "nah man, you have to give her time" She blocked me on Facebook. What do you do? |
 eclairparty98, MickeyCheeky, Sunflower123, unaluna
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Oct 27, 2017, 06:23 PM
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Personally, I suggest you shouldn't talk to Bob, Sophie nor Sarah at all because they don't sound like a healthy set of friends. It sounds harsh, but they're all the reason you're here seeking advice on what to do about them; doubting them, worried about them, considering never talking to them again. One of them blocked you... The other spread rumours about you. Two of them made high school a bad experience for you. They don't sound like ''friends'', if I'm honest.
No good friendship entails rumours, gossiping, trust issues, passive aggressive social media behaviour. Sophie doesn't sound like a person you can trust. Bob knows too much. Sarah isn't taking your side. Please realize that if you end contact with these people nothing bad will happen. The world won't end. There are much better people to socialise with out there, lol. One of them blocked you so you're already one down. I wish you the very best in this situation!! |
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Oct 27, 2017, 06:27 PM
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I agree. They don’t sound like friends that have treated you well. I wish you the very best.
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Oct 27, 2017, 08:40 PM
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Oct 27, 2017, 08:58 PM
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 Does your partner have friends?? How do you feel about them?? Perhaps you could integrate more with them as I know it's difficult meeting new people for friendship purposes. Maybe take up a class?? A supportive, fun class though not one of them competitive serious ones. APD can make things a little difficult, I know  maybe consider seeing a professional who can help you channel your APD?
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Oct 28, 2017, 10:01 AM
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Sounds like none of them are you friends.
 I know this sounds harsh and very black & white: If you don't trust someone, it is best not to be their friend. If someone makes you miserable at the end of the day, it might be time to let them go completely. At the end of the day ... you come first. 
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