[annxo]

Whenever I get really mad or upset about something that my boyfriend does...even if it's something I should be really mad about I walk into a different room to collect myself. I get mad because he will want something from the store that's for him such a cigarettes and ask me to grab them for him but then he will give me less than what they cost, or he will ask me to get the small bottle of whiskey if i'm not throwing in money to drink even tho I buy US bottles all the time on top of dinner and lunch on most nights. So then I get so mad and I don't want to fight with him so I don't want to say anything...I just go into my room and give myself time to reflect on the situation until I'm not mad anymore and then I forget about it. I guess I just don't like fighting..but I don't understand why I don't want to stand up for myself...I do tell myself that it's my fault because I wouldn't be mad if I had more money...

[Aviza]

Originally Posted by annxo

Whenever I get really mad or upset about something that my boyfriend does...even if it's something I should be really mad about I walk into a different room to collect myself. I get mad because he will want something from the store that's for him such a cigarettes and ask me to grab them for him but then he will give me less than what they cost, or he will ask me to get the small bottle of whiskey if i'm not throwing in money to drink even tho I buy US bottles all the time on top of dinner and lunch on most nights. So then I get so mad and I don't want to fight with him so I don't want to say anything...I just go into my room and give myself time to reflect on the situation until I'm not mad anymore and then I forget about it. I guess I just don't like fighting..but I don't understand why I don't want to stand up for myself...I do tell myself that it's my fault because I wouldn't be mad if I had more money...

You are mad because he is using you. He's taking advantage of you by expecting you to cover his costs. What are you getting from being involved with him? What does he do for You? May be reconsider your relationship.

[Agent Misty]

Why not try to just discuss setting boundries regarding each of your finances and that you would like the full amount for what he aks you to purchase? Do you think he would respond in a bad way if you did?

[MickeyCheeky]

I think you should talk about this with him.. it sounds pretty important.