[JoeS21]

I've always wanted to know that.

[DP_2017]

I am not "in love " but i love mine. Idk why. We have a close bond and i guess its not much different than why people may love close friends or family or pets etc. Just dorta happens.

I don't think it's actual "love", but rather transference. When you think about it, proper therapy with proper boundaries will mean that the client will not know much about the therapist at all.

How can you truly love someone who you spend an hour or two with, at most twice a week? Love comes from really spending time with someone, getting to know them flaws and all, and still loving them. You can't do that in an hour or two time window with someone that you are paying to see.

[DP_2017]

Ideally you are right but in my case he does share tons and we communicate alot outside that hour. I for sure feel it's not just transerferance. It's very much how i feel about my dog and for those who know me would say yep thats huge then

But yes they are not supposed to share etc.

Originally Posted by DP_2017

Ideally you are right but in my case he does share tons and we communicate alot outside that hour. I for sure feel it's not just transerferance. It's very much how i feel about my dog and for those who know me would say yep thats huge then

But yes they are not supposed to share etc.

I was referring to romantic transference specifically, not the kind of bond you would feel for a friend or dog. Should have specified that, my apologies! I think growing to care for a therapist in a non-romantic way is not uncommon, especially if you have been seeing them for a long time.

[dlantern]

Some people are severely closed up about what are the goals in their therapy. It isn't product you buy you usually are going into there and tell what is happening then you escalate it from there if those needs aren't meet. They might share their impressions along the way. I'd investigate transference it might be chronic issue to discover you might need to know what you are so narcisstic or why you struggle with anger. I'd say a match of personality with a therapist is imperative they might just tell you that you flirt way too much or they might share that you too allotting. They might be too job focused and you need to share that too.

We go about life like there is nothing wrong until it all goes crashing down, it is exposing and raw

I think it's because therapists are not allowed to dump their baggage on you, so you assume they don't have baggage and are perfect. I could be completely off on this

[Fuzzybear]

I think it’s because therapists are supposed to listen without judgment and in some cases they may offer or appear to offer “nurturing” that some people with mental health issues missed out on in childhood because of their parents’ difficulties or lack of caring.

So the client may feel attachment or even “romantic transference”.

Therapists aren’t supposed to dump their baggage (including with some sub optimal therapists lack of caring at times ) or anger etc on clients, but some do. Then “negative transference” may occur and retraumatisation