Stressed and worried.

I’m working Tues-Sat in the middle of the day, so I have no work life balance this week. I have a dentist appointment tomorrow at 7:30 and lately I can’t get up until 9:30-10:30 so it’s going to be difficult, I’m pretty sure my teeth are basically destroyed.

Today my coworker slammed something into a garbage can and just left. I have no idea what his issue was. But I don’t think it was me because it wasn’t my fault I couldn’t take out the garbage because his work was in the way. He just left his work all over the place. So if anything, I should be mad at him and not the other way around.

I’m just trying to focus on working as much as I can.

But I’m just really frustrated and worried right now.

How do I cope with this?

Leave him some blank folders?

I don’t work in an office.

I think that was meant to be rhetorical.

i am wondering about your work set up, namely how many people are employed in the same space as you and this co-worker. If it more than just the two of you, could it then be possible this behaviour was aimed at someone else? What did you observe suggests to you he had a problem with you?

Bozdickens, you have in prior posts suggested some difficulty with interacting with others. Might this be connected? Could you in fact be misreading the body language? i have a small suggestion. Instead of concentrating on why he would be angry with you, concentrate on those reasons why he wouldn't.

Be happy that he quit. Things now can only get better.

He didn’t quit and he said hi to me this morning. I said he wasn’t mad at me. I have no idea what he was mad at but I was doing nothing wrong.

There was one other coworker working with us.

Yes I have trouble interacting with people.

Today was awful, but I was expecting it to.

I may have to get a crown if a filling doesn’t take. It’s my front tooth. I’d be without a tooth for a week. I’m going to take a week off from work for medical reasons if that’s the case. My coworkers are brutal. No I’m not “misinterpreting that.” I can hear the way they talk about other people behind their backs. If I had a front tooth missing, they’d tear me a new A hole and never let me live it down.

I know how they treat eachother.

I’m just really annoyed right now. With everything.

This seems like a hostile environment to work in. I would seriously consider if the money was worth it or if I could go somewhere else

I wish I could be a fly on the wall at your job, because I have no idea if it's you, or them from just your posts, but it's my guess that it's both. I wonder if your coworkers and your environment at work stress you out, and then you read into people being hostile towards you (I'm not saying they're not hostile or jerks, but at the same time I wonder if you are hyper sensitive in this environment?). I like JustAFriend's suggestion of trying to focus on what you're doing right. Have you talked about this stuff with your job in therapy? If so, what does your therapist say about it? If it really is a hostile environment (or you just don't like your job there), consider looking for another job you'd be more comfortable at. I give you big kudos for going in and being reliable to a stressful job. I would also like to ask you...are there people you do feel comfortable around? Do you feel comfortable with your family? Big hugs, Boz. The guy who threw the trash away loudly, as long as you're doing your job, I think don't even worry about it Boz. Sounds like no big deal. Or like, maybe you're uncomfortable with him, and perhaps he's uncomfortable with you too. That's not always a bad thing. Sometimes it's just life. I don't know. If you want to improve your relationship skills, I'm sure you can. Therapy, etc. Baby steps. I hope everything works out at the dentist.

I asked him if he was ok the other day. He said he left because he was frustrated and he hates his job. But that I’m “ok.”

So I didn’t misinterpret his body language. He really was upset.

More friends and connections.

Take time for yourself, when you have free time.

Maybe you cannot do anything about the job right way, but I bet there are other stressors in your life that you do have the power to manage.

Ask yourself what are other sources of stress or anxiety in your life. Maybe you're making yourself worry about work and the coworker because thinking about what you truly need to manage is too painful or seems to insurmountable.

Thanks for sharing.