[Fuzzybear]

Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

[cryingontheinside]

I feel unwanted and out of place and an inconvenience to other people .

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

(((((((Fuzzybear)))))))
I don’t feel wanted.

Nobody wants me ...........

Only ones who are there for me are Tigger and Willow

[Rohag]

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

I don’t “fit in” anywhere in the “real world” either

[Medusax]

You are all probably pretty cool. My friend is about to be hospitalized for Chronic Depression and she sounds a lot like cryingontheinside. She is a fun, giggly, bouncy person (at least she WAS) and I simply cannot fathom why she feels the way she does about herself. The last thing she texted to me was ..."Sorry it is such a downer talking to me.." It actually made me rather angry. It was NEVER anything but enjoyable to converse with her. She is SUCH an interesting individual.

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by Rohag

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

I have clear evidence that people find me “boring”

[sarahsweets]

Sometimes our perceptions make us think they are truths.

[MickeyCheeky]

I don't know if I'm wanted, Fuzzybear. But I believe all people here are valuable, regardless of whether they're wanted or not. If other people don't like you, well, that's THEIR loss! I hope you'll all feel better soon. Please know that I care about you, and I'm sure many other people on PC do as well. Sometimes depression doesn't let us see things for what they really are. Please don't give up. Take care of yourself. Sending many hugs to everyone

[Thunder Bow]

I feel I want me. In life, some want me, and others don't. It is a mix. It is a big world out there.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

I'm unwanted. I don't think there is anywhere for me to fit in. People are either coupled up or so in love with their own weirdnesses/addictions/jobs -- where are the nice people who just want to go to a movie or to get a burger--not a big production--just a quick outing for some diversion and pleasant conversation?

Something I have found particularly hurtful lately; a friend of mine has taken to suggesting through text that we should get together and when I have responded; I then don't hear back from her, and in fact usually find out later she has gone off and done something with her spouse or extended family. I understand she has a spouse and extended family--but if she isn't available I would rather she write "I thought about you today"; leave it at that, and don't get my hopes up that maybe we can have lunch together or go to the park.

I do volunteer work and that brings me into contact with people. But honestly; a lot of volunteer work is actually work; and I already work hard 40 hours a week. So I'm not chomping at the bit to take on yet another volunteer job besides the ones I have because I already know that is what it will be: a job.

I'm not sure why I was cut from the herd so early--but it looks like it was--and will remain, a permanent thing. Sorry if this isn't the answer you were looking for. But I needed to say that.

[floridaman38]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

I feel out of place a lot but mainly when I feel that others are better than me, which is most of the time. I have only a few people that I associate with and they are mainly family. I think that people don't get me. I feel like they would rather not be bothered by my troubles and so they detach and that makes me think of how less I am than them. I hope this helps to answer your question.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I don’t “fit in” anywhere in the “real world” either

You "fit in" in my world, Fuzzybear.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Rohag

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

Oh Rohag, I am sorry you feel this way. It's hard to feel sometimes--no, often, it is painful. You "fit in" in my real world.

[mote.of.soul]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

I feel unwanted and out of place and an inconvenience to other people .

That's me as well. For the most part.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))

Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

[downandlonely]

Well, my mom told me that she never wanted kids, so there's that.

But actually when my depression is under control I don't struggle with feeling out of place. When my meds aren't working, I feel like no one wants me.

[JulioGeorge]

I am trying to value myself more. And I remind myself daily that I am worth all the happiness in this world. you should also do that. It helps.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

it varies, and depends on a lot of factors- my mood, what i'm doing that day, how I'm spoken too, etc

I'm defffenetely not wanted by my family. they have made that quite clear not only to me but to other people who they talk to

most friends I know, if they were to hold a secret meeting, would probably say something along the lines of.. well, she's so boring and she's so difficult. their's a lot more important things in life than dealing with her and listening to her complain

though when I'm having a good day, and someone is actually making me feel special, (which actually isn't difficult, you can touch my arm and I'd say it was special), I feel like the luckiest person on earth

but it's been a long time since I've felt anywhere near wanted. a long time indeed

I love it when people call me hun, or darling, or babe, my new favorite is twinkle toes

I was called that a few days ago and thought it was real sweet

[sarahsweets]

Before recovery (substances and mental health) i felt unwanted and almost like I was an outcast- too damaged to deserve love and understanding. I had to make a lot of mistakes and do a lot of damage before I realized that I deserve love and kindness. I found out that wondering about what other people's motives were and if they liked or wanted me only kept me preoccupied in my head. I spent way too much time thinking about myself. In a way I was very self absorbed. I had to put my demons to bed and make a lot of amends. I had to become med compliant. I had to learn that I am responsible for my own happiness and it wasnt anyone elses' job to give me meaning or happiness. I needed to stop thinking about myself and actively participate in thinking of others. When you are trying to think of others, and do for others it is very hard to focus on yourself and when you do, you are a lot kinder to yourself. Finding meaning in being kind and having empathy and compassion became my new food for the soul. I am just not that interesting or important enough for people to sit around thinking about or trying to exclude me or harm me. Once I stopped caring and no longer validated negative people by my reactions I found my inner peace. Letting go of resentments helped as well. I cant change other people. I had to change me and how I acted, reacted and participated. I shun gossip. I do not participate in "taking someone down" or **** talking. (thats not to say it never happens but rarely to I get sucked into it). Treating myself as kindly as I treat others sort of leveled the playing field.

[Stage56]

I do not fit in. That shows pretty clearly with all my firnds