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May 28, 2019 at 02:24 PM
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My former narc abuser would over-do it with her words, telling me how special I am in her life, holding a permanent place. Then she would ask me for favors in between those exaggerated expressions. And I would find out she didn't invite me to events that all the important people in her life came to. Or if I get invited, it is at last minute to fill in a cancellation. Eventually, I learned that her words are disingenuous, and for the purpose of getting me to do things for her.
So when she tried to hoover me again recently, I didn't return her expression of affection but just remained polite and distant (what is there to return if it is fake? I also don't want her to think that her hoovering is working). Now, I am labelled as being "cold." I know that I don't need to waste my energy on proving to her that I am "not a cold person." And I won't. But internally, there is a part of me that want to defend myself. Can anyone else relate to saying, "Who cares what s/he thinks" but still being bothered inside by what s/he thinks? |
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