[Ser336]

Hello guys , i am new to the forum and i joined here to get some help
My english isn't that good and i may be mistaken in formulation of sentences , i hope you guys understand that . I tried to make this shorter but i wanted to hear the complete story

4~ months ago i had an car incident in front of my block where i live , i was with my younger brother coming from the store , it was night , i driven slowly because the road was extremely bad and i didnt want to break something from my father
expensive car , when i was getting closer to my parking spot this guy was driving behind me extremely close , me and my father park with the front car in the direction i was coming from and to do that i needed to make a return maneuver , when i wanted to ma make right to turn the car around i needed to go alot to left side because the space was very small , in that time the guy behinde me did stop very late and i was afraid to make right not to cause an accident so i continue driving and told myself i will turn around the car in the next empty space , there i could only enter with the back of the car , here the guy still was to close to let me make the maneuver , i was thinking myself the guy will go 5 metter back to let me getting there , i was thinking he will let me because ffs we dont know eachother but we live in the same area , i did try to make the Hello guys , i am new to the forum and i joined here to get some help

2~ months ago i had an car incident in front of my block where i live , i was with my younger brother coming from the store , it was night , i driven slowly because the road was extremely bad and i didnt want to break something from my father
expensive car , when i was getting closer to my parking spot this guy was driving behind me extremely close , me and my father park with the front car in the direction i was coming from and to do that i needed to make a return maneuver , when i wanted to ma make right to turn the car around i needed to go alot to left side because the space was very small , in that time the guy behinde me did stop very late and i was afraid to make right not to cause an accident so i continue driving and told myself i will turn around the car in the next empty space , there i could only enter with the back of the car , here the guy still was to close to let me make the maneuver again but he still didnt let me (he used the horn) so i get really confused and i move the car to the right side to let him pass away , i waited a bit but he didnt move and really didnt know what to do so for some reason i choose to drove back a bit but i didnt check the right mirror so i hit another car ,

so i got so angry because i hit another car and i did leave the car and flame the guy who was behind me , here the guy got so offended by it he did leave the car and hit me in the face with his palm (here his wife? stopped him after he hit me) , after that he got even more angry and drive his car to his spot , in that time i drive main to my spot , here the guy come fast open my car door and his wife kinda stopped him and then eventually leave with the comment 'i was the one wrong and i was the one flaming ' .

I know it was my fault because i didnt turn the signal but i was expecting from him to let me doing my maneuver and really didnt expect from him to hit me
just over bad language and i just can't get this event out of my head , it been over 4 months and every time when someone horn in front of my block i got reminded of that unpleasant event and i blame myself every time of it , i know i reacted wrong by flaming him but i keep thinking if i was looking more buffed will he had courage to hit me or even open my car door .. ? Also after that night my father was coming home and ask me what happen and he know from my brother he hit me and we told the police but i dropped that because i know was my fault . My father also find out he was in some sort of "riot police" , i really can't find the word in english ... anyway , this is even make me question myself even more because he supposed to be calm know how to deal with my kinda reaction and he choose to be agresive ....

I just can't get this out of my head

[Skeezyks]

Hello Ser: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. Since this is your first post... welcome to Psych Central.

As I read your post, it sounds like your main concern is you cannot stop thinking about the incident you described & you blame yourself for what occurred. I think the main thing to keep in mind, with regard to this, would be that trying to block or force yourself to stop thinking about this incident is only likely to make the thoughts keep coming back. What is necessary is to learn to allow these thoughts to arise & fade at their own pace without becoming stressed out over them.

There are practices you can learn to help you to let go of your troubling thoughts. It would be too complicated for me to try to describe those to you here. I know you wrote your English is not that good. So I don't know if it will be possible for you to read & understand articles on the subject. (Hopefully you will.) Here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that talk about how to handle the types of thoughts you're struggling with. Most of these articles are going to basically suggest similar approaches. But each comes at it from a little different perspective:

Coping with Obsessive Thoughts

Eight Step Method for Managing Intense Emotion

7 Steps to Conquer a Painful Emotion

How You Can Overcome Intrusive Thoughts | Dialectical Behavior Therapy Understood

9 Ways to Let Go of Stuck Thoughts

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...nful-emotions/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/culti...nful-emotions/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.