[Ljj7000]

I am currently dealing with a problem that has bothered me for the past few days. I am trying to work through my problems the best way that I can. I tend to be shy. Sometimes I worry if I am giving people the impression that I'm mad at them or don't want anything to do with them, but I'm really just shy. So SOME (key word: some) people don't approach me at all. I realize that I have confidence issues and I am doing my best to improve myself in that area, but I come across setbacks.

How do you mentally cope with being ignored? How do you come to terms with being ignored by people?

[MickeyCheeky]

I think it's important to acknowledge that not everyone will like us and not everyone necessarely wants to have anything to do with us. It's also FUNDAMENTAL to acknowledge that that IN NO WAY means we're doing something WRONG! It's just on of those things that can happen and it's not really our fault. You are working on yourself and that's really ALL you can do! So I'd say don't take it too personally. There's nothing wrong with you and plenty of people will like you for WHO YOU TRULY ARE! Focus on them and don't pay too much attention to those who dont' seem to care. Keep working on yourself, you're doing a WONDERFUL Job! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! I'm sorry if this isn't really helpful. Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, @Ljj7000, and ALL of the people you Love and who ALSO Love you BACK! Keep fighting and keep rocking as much as you possibly can like you're already wonderfully doing entirely on your own. PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND DO KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING!

I try not to let it bother me anymore (I say try, it's very hard). if someone's ignoring me, and I know they are ignoring me, I get very anxious and paronoyed

but: the way I look at it.. their's always going to be someone, if someone doesn't want to talk and doesn't want to listen to you, keep going, keep making yourself known until someone hears you and listens to you

like has all ready been said: not everyone can like us

sucks a bit, but that's how it goes

[Moose72]

My ex-FIL used to do this to me! If I said something he didn't like he woud flat out stare straight ahead as if I weren't even there.

[Mendingmysoul]

My own parents did a good job of ignoring me.They would proudly declare and brag to their friends how they do not care to talk to me.They don't like to visit me.When I visit them they put a lot of effort to ignore my existance.I am just a wall on the fly or a piece of furniture.Their furniture is treated better than me.At least dusted and polished.

[Mendingmysoul]

Hmm...sorry for typo...that should be fly on the wall...not the other way around.

[Buffy01]

I completely understand how you feel Ljj7000! I am going through this myself! People tell me that I am being rude when I'm fact those around me were being rude. When I am not the scapegoat than I am being ignored. My family always talk bad about me to other.

[Buffy01]

That great advice Mickey! I wish that I had thought about that myself and I will have to keep that in mind myself!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

I try not to let it bother me anymore (I say try, it's very hard). if someone's ignoring me, and I know they are ignoring me, I get very anxious and paronoyed

but: the way I look at it.. their's always going to be someone, if someone doesn't want to talk and doesn't want to listen to you, keep going, keep making yourself known until someone hears you and listens to you

like has all ready been said: not everyone can like us

sucks a bit, but that's how it goes

That is great advice! I will keep that in mind!

[Bill3]

It is quite possible that some people think you want nothing to do with them and so they leave you alone.

Such people are trying to accommodate what they think you want. They are not “ignoring” you. They think they are helping you.

What if you said to yourself “Even though I am shy, I am still going to approach people I am interested in?”

[mountainstream]

[Thunder Bow]

Many have issues that keep them from interacting with others. Don't take it personally.

[continuosly blue]

I wasted most of my life worrying whether I was liked by family members !
I haven’t talked to 4 siblings and my father for years. I’ve tried and reached out and finally I just got tired of never hearing back. I’ve learned over the years that everybody is into their own life. I’ve met some strangers who treated me better. I could tell they liked me. Why ? Because I have no past with them. They don’t know me. It used to bother me a lot. Now I don’t really care. I would like to have relationships with people. Just haven’t found the right ones yet ! Imagine , a world with 6 BILLION people and I can’t find a true friend. But to answer the OPs question...... if you put a smile on your face and put yourself out there and risk first contact , you won’t be ignored.

[Mountaindewed]

I don’t really mind being ignored by other people. Maybe it’s because I’m always so out of it physically lately or because I’m autistic or what. Today the 3 coworkers I was working with were talking and were completely ignoring me and it didn’t bother me at all. I wasn’t even paying attention to them. Then again I always act like I’m sick and not feeling good when I’m working so they might not know how to respond to me either. I don’t really know.