[plynstrom266]

Hey everyone!

IÂ’d like to thank everyone in advance for reading my post and taking the time to weigh in - it means a lot to me and I read through everything.

The reason I am reaching out today is because IÂ’m still thinking about a guy who I havenÂ’t spoken to in months (since November) and havenÂ’t seen in even longer.

He asked me out for drinks during the summer and then didnÂ’t follow up for a week and from then on I bombarded him with ridiculous sexts and texts and completely embarrassed myself (so when he eventually did answer, I had to decline to see him out of embarrassment).

Some of the messages I sent were just downright odd and I had to delete them and block them out of my memory.

I think about him everyday and yesterday I actually started crying about it and the fact that he doesnÂ’t care about me and wonÂ’t even ask me how I am doing etc.

Basically my emotions are too much for me to handle and I feel like a monster and hate myself because of this.

Why did I latch onto this random guy? Why canÂ’t I just forget about it? Why canÂ’t I just act and think like a normal person? These are the questions I ask myself.

I broke up with my long term bf one year ago and I never had any problems, I never thought about it and accepted it in a normal way. But for some reason this guy, who I liked, sticks around in my head and I think about him and miss him everyday. ItÂ’s a truly obsessive tendency which I wish I could stop.

IÂ’m not going to message him because I know that this connection I feel is entirely in my head and is not real (also I donÂ’t think itÂ’s socially acceptable to msg someone two months later when you were barely even friends to begin with).

I think I might be slightly borderline and I want to know if anyone else can make sense of this behaviour or if they can relate.

Thanks for all your help!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by plynstrom266

Hey everyone!

IÂ’d like to thank everyone in advance for reading my post and taking the time to weigh in - it means a lot to me and I read through everything.

The reason I am reaching out today is because IÂ’m still thinking about a guy who I havenÂ’t spoken to in months (since November) and havenÂ’t seen in even longer.

He asked me out for drinks during the summer and then didnÂ’t follow up for a week and from then on I bombarded him with ridiculous sexts and texts and completely embarrassed myself (so when he eventually did answer, I had to decline to see him out of embarrassment).

Some of the messages I sent were just downright odd and I had to delete them and block them out of my memory.

I think about him everyday and yesterday I actually started crying about it and the fact that he doesnÂ’t care about me and wonÂ’t even ask me how I am doing etc.

Basically my emotions are too much for me to handle and I feel like a monster and hate myself because of this.

Why did I latch onto this random guy? Why canÂ’t I just forget about it? Why canÂ’t I just act and think like a normal person? These are the questions I ask myself.

I broke up with my long term bf one year ago and I never had any problems, I never thought about it and accepted it in a normal way. But for some reason this guy, who I liked, sticks around in my head and I think about him and miss him everyday. ItÂ’s a truly obsessive tendency which I wish I could stop.

IÂ’m not going to message him because I know that this connection I feel is entirely in my head and is not real (also I donÂ’t think itÂ’s socially acceptable to msg someone two months later when you were barely even friends to begin with).

I think I might be slightly borderline and I want to know if anyone else can make sense of this behaviour or if they can relate.

Thanks for all your help!

I'm sorry that you are struggling right now. Have you thought about talking to a therapist about how you feeling who could give you some coping skills?

[WovenGalaxy]

Hi plynstrom266, Did he reject you? That may be a huge reason why you are obsessing over him. I have found that rejection makes the rejecter seem better than they actually are to the rejected person. It creates an illusion.

In terms of sexting and over texting, you made a mistake and we've all thrown ourselves at someone at one time or another. It sounds impulsive (no judgment from me) and a good therapist can help you sort this all out.

Hang in there, ok?

[bpcyclist]

Everyone has sent an inappropriate email or text at some point. Don't sweat it. Stop beating yourself up and move forward.

[bpforever1]

I would just focus your energy on other people or tasks. I also was obsessed with an online man who never cared about me and never respected me. He was controlling and abusive and kept rejecting me while I kept rejecting him. Now, it is over and believe me, I am relieved and happy!! I sexted him many messages too. He also sexted me a lot. I think sexting is not a good idea if you don't know the person well, however, what has been done is done. Thus, I would get over it. We all make mistakes. Learning for our mistakes is the key point to improving one's life. Best wishes!