Coping with cyberbullying

I tend to ruminate over being a victim of cyber bullied.

I had two trolls who had apologized to me for harassing me. One of the trolls had informed me they had a really bad day at work that had made them hate their life so they went on YouTube and said some horrible things to me without thinking about what kind of stress I was already in. Where another troll was mortified after being confronted about the mobbing and harassment I was already in before she had started another slander against me and was beyond mortified that she didn’t see the entire video or knew that I was receiving death threats until her boyfriend had threaten to call the police on her after realizing the anxiety she had caused her sister when she troll me on her sister comment. None of the things she had told me to do she didn’t want to ever happen to me.

I've had too much experience with bullies, and I figured out some things they really don't like.

IRL bullying is harder because you are face to face, so to speak, but not impossible. I had a horrific experience in the 80's. I began studying electrical engineering. My first day of classes I realized I was the only chick there. That didn't bother me, but some of the guys were ruthless. It was a battle of wills until I brought my gun. 😂 Kidding!
Seriously, I survived that ordeal by simply making up my mind to make my tormentors 'disappear'. They literally ceased to exist in my mind. After a while, when it became obvious that they could no longer get to me, the other guys laughed at them. The bullies started dropping out, I assume they felt humiliated. I never saw any of them again.

Two years ago, a silly little girl on a website I had been on for years came after me. I don't know exactly why but I'm guessing it's jealousy. What floored me was how determined she was to kick me out of the community and the extremes she went to telling everyone who would listened that I had hurt a young, inexperienced transgender girl when she came over to my house, among other lies. A friend recorded her denigrating me and when I listened I was amazed that anyone could possibly believe her bs. A lot of people do, though. I'm looking into any legal recourse at my disposal.

Try to remember that bullies are cowards at heart and most likely bullied themselves at some point. Stand up to them or make them nonexistent in your world. They'll most likely go away and leave you alone.

And something my therapist told me - you are in control as long as you refuse to give them the satisfaction of responding to them. Also, you don't have to read anything you don't want to. Stop reading their posts.

I have stop reading their post however I noticed that one of the trolls suddenly got a tasted of his own medicine and deleted his comments. I wish I could make them leave my mind.

I started being cyberbullied in 2017 when I first join Kati Morton website who is a license and marriages therapist who once lived in Santa Monica, California. I found myself being mobbed in March and May and by memorial weekend I was banned from the chat room as well as the forums. I went on a discord not knowing that I was still talking to the same people just under a different name. Where I found myself being harassed again, called horrible names, threaten all because I had asked what had happen. They spread lies about me talking about others.

Im still worried about the trolls still trying to find me.

In my experience it's usually not a particular website, it's usually particular people.
(They can be anywhere. They can hide anywhere. They can seem to be your friends. And so on.)
Although there is one site called Nextdoor that I don't much recommend.
In my opinion and in my experience, the most popular social media sites aren't really even where the biggest problems usually are anyway (other than just the fact that they do have a lot of people there so you potentially could get attacked by many at once, but this actually seems to happen more at sites where there are fewer moderators and that kind of thing).
Had a post of mine deleted at a mental health site recently. Reason given was "rude and not helpful thanks" so likely those were the words of the person who made the complaint.
I wasn't being rude to anyone. I was actually talking about how it isn't wrong to feel "anger and resentment" (quoting somebody else's words) toward those who have abused you.
Apparently the poster I was replying to thought I had something against that poster???
All I was doing was quoting that person's words and then using them as an example to describe what I had been through (including experiences with someone else who does not post there but who used those exact same words to describe my supposed feelings toward her when I *was not* even feeling that way at the time).
I was using the poster's words as a jumping-off point for what I was talking about. Period. That's all. That's *absolutely* all. No disrespect meant and I hope none taken. Etc.
Not sure how that got somehow translated as "rude". 🤔🙄🤔
Unfortunately, at some (not all) of the sites that are very big on politeness, someone can report you for rudeness (or, supposed rudeness) and then the admin apparently doesn't have to genuinely review your post enough to even *find out if* there was anything *actually* rude in it or not.
Hmmm. That's strange. 🤔🙄🤔

I completely agree. Not many resources.

Whenever I think about what happened on YouTube? I still get scared of what could have happened and what might have happened (

Wow! I’m sorry to hear that happened to you. I was banned from Kati Morton website over false accusations that I never did then found on the discord and was harassed as well there.

I am now :hug processing the cyber bullying in therapy

I had developed CPTSD due to the bullying

I'm really sorry to hear.

that means a lot to me

I’m sorry too, cyberbullying sucks

That is true

Buffy, please block & report them. They are looking for a reaction. Don’t give them any reaction at all. What a bunch of low life losers.

I had to start over with a new gmail account because of the trolling on YouTube because of how bad the terrible treatment I have received since 2017 - 2020 my account was falsely reported by the bullies.

I don’t know how to let go of the cyber-bullying experience

my psychiatrist thinks I shouldn’t take the trolls comments so seriously and very unlikely they did what they threatened to do to me.

All bullies are weak people who derive pleasure from
doing and saying things to upset others to make them feel uncomfortable and bad about themselves. They are often jealous and need to feel they have some kind of power by disrupting others.

The best thing to do is not react and distance from them. They are disordered people and it has nothing to do with your lacking or deserving to experience their toxic interactions.

These toxic individuals get so they know what to say that gets reactions that they derive a sense of empowerment from. It’s all selfish behavior patterns and has nothing to do with any true inadequacies of the individuals they target. It’s important you understand that about them.

Bullies…

The easiest person to ever dispatch, is a bully. They feel so inadequate that they must attack those whom they believe to be weaker than they are. If someone chose me for this activity it would be a poor choice, as I am quite good with computers. Then add the fact at the lab I worked at, has a network security center with some of the most talented people in the country with them. I am disabled and out of work now, but still held in reserve status, they are only a phone call away. They unlocked the iPhones when the FBI couldn't, for those that cannot believe they can be tracked. Just ask those two Chinese military, that hacked Equifax several years back, our guys were the ones that tracked them down. Add to that I have a Cisco Firewall which has active cloud monitoring.Those that try that with me, would swiftly be introduced to IC3, the cyber law enforcement division of the FBI. They are unfriendly, considering all the good things I did for them down the years. Get someone that knows how to work well with computers, have them identify who is bullying you, and use your wireless router to block all of their MAC addresses. They can send all the traffic they like, the routers will simply drop the packets. If it is severe bullying call IC3 directly and speak to an agent as they really don't care for that. Good luck, and sorry that is happening.