[Neverever86]

As part of my depression it definitely bothers me more during the hot months for some reason but end of the year also hurts. As i get older I feel like life is going by too fast and I can’t cope sometimes. I’m dreading New Year’s Eve cause I know I’m gonna probably cry entire night. No one understands how sad it is if you really think about it. Anybody else feel this way? How do I cheer myself up?

[WormholeWizard]

Originally Posted by Neverever86

As part of my depression it definitely bothers me more during the hot months for some reason but end of the year also hurts. As i get older I feel like life is going by too fast and I can’t cope sometimes. I’m dreading New Year’s Eve cause I know I’m gonna probably cry entire night. No one understands how sad it is if you really think about it. Anybody else feel this way? How do I cheer myself up?

thank you for sharing,
for a very long time i have struggled so much with anxiety, depression, P.D , PTSD, dissociative identity disorder, anti-social behavior , alcoholism , excessive drug use , violent behavior , you name it ! i was at war with the universe, i have disapointed my self and everyone who ever cared repeatedly, there was times i knew i cannot be fixed anymore , and it took me a very long time to realise that its not working and i dont need help anymore, that this is who i am and trying to change who i am took everything from bad to worst .

im not sure that im balanced enough to be eligible to advise you on anything but this is what i have learned from therapy and family and my own experience about "how to live life as a human " :

there is a few things we all need to consider as humans regardless of our past or our present,

- ( you are who you are and there is no use to fighting it ) because im tired of fighting it too , i want to be happy with who i am without this endless worry of what others see in me.
- ( life is too short to be counting months and years or failures ) when i look back at my life i see the destruction that i have done but i also see the time i spend wishing if i did things in a different way , or if i had the courage to do the things i was afraid to do ,you should do whatever you feel like doing because life is too short to worry about tomorrow .
- (if i could turn back the time i think i will do it the same all over again )
you know what? im tired of regretting what i did , who i am , my choices , my disorders, this reality of mine is all i have and and nothing will change that , i need to embrace it and have a few good days before im too old with no energy to do anything at all .
- ( hearts are made to be broken, and all relationships will end because no one lives forever ) i took me lots of years to understand the value of today , and i still struggle to apply it in my life, why should i worry about anything or anyone if nothing is meant to last forever , i better enjoy it while i can than be sad about it , i used to care more than i should !

i dont know if this will help you cheer up or make you sadder !

we all give too much value to how others see us , when the only person that matters is us and how we see our- selves .

i hope you never have to cry in the new year eve .

[bpcyclist]

What about taking command of the situation, Nevernever? Why not plan something fun or interesting for yourself to do on NYE? Go to the movies? Go to a concert? Something besides sitting around feeling crappy. Just a thought.

[will19]

I feel very much the same way. My birthday is on New Years Day, so when that day comes, I'm a year older. There was a time when I was very young that I looked forward to the New Year. It was exciting getting older and was optimistic that the next year will be better. Now I feel just the opposite.

As I've gotten older, I've inherited some health issues. So it seems like in getting older there will be more doctor appointments and procedures. They are dreaded plus it costs money. So now I dread the New Year coming.

This past year was pretty good for me. So it's hard to celebrate a good year that's going. It seems like the following year after a good one will not be as good.

[*Beth*]

My birthday is at the end of December, so I can relate to what will9 posted. The good part is that once the New Year's Eve has passed I'm already looking for signs of spring, which will show here by early February.

I don't like NY's Eve, it has always seemed... I dunno...just not comfortable to me. So now I just treat it like any other day. I go to bed at the usual time and so on.


bpcyclist has a good suggestion, though. If the New Year makes you feel really sad, maybe planning something fun would help.

[Neverever86]

Thank you all for the advice. I know I’ll try to enjoy it but it’ll be hard. Everyone on tv talking about it being end of decade it just gets to me I think that’s why this year more than any makes me really sad. I’m in my early 30s now in a decade I’ll be in my 40s it terrifies me to think of it. I also feel like just yesterday I was a kid and now I’m not. It hurts

[downandlonely]

I think it helps to try to live in the present and not focus on the mistakes of the past or fears for the future. Maybe try and distract yourself by spending time with friends, going to a movie, or something like that. And you don't have to stay up until midnight if it depresses you to see it.

[Discombobulated]

Maybe block out the media (esp social media!) My take on it is that NY is mightily hyped up - why? It sells stuff. Working in retail I and my colleagues see it first hand.

Would it help you to see things from a different perspective? Time is a social construct and as such these dates are pretty arbitrary- we invent them basically.

If we follow the sun our NY actually began on the 22nd December following the winter solstice (in Northern hemisphere that is). Other cultures celebrate their New year at different times, such as the Chinese in February. Viewing it like this helps me see that our own Jan 1st social construct is not the be all and end all.

I love bp's idea of a treat just for you - maybe a movie, something that will absorb you. Great idea - I would do this myself if I wasn't going to bed so early, tomorrow is just another day (work day) for so many of us. Take it easy and be kind to yourself - every day not just tonight/ tomorrow.

Originally Posted by Discombobulated

Maybe block out the media (esp social media!) My take on it is that NY is mightily hyped up - why? It sells stuff. Working in retail I and my colleagues see it first hand.

Would it help you to see things from a different perspective? Time is a social construct and as such these dates are pretty arbitrary- we invent them basically.

If we follow the sun our NY actually began on the 22nd December following the winter solstice (in Northern hemisphere that is). Other cultures celebrate their New year at different times, such as the Chinese in February. Viewing it like this helps me see that our own Jan 1st social construct is not the be all and end all.

I love bp's idea of a treat just for you - maybe a movie, something that will absorb you. Great idea - I would do this myself if I wasn't going to bed so early, tomorrow is just another day (work day) for so many of us. Take it easy and be kind to yourself - every day not just tonight/ tomorrow.

The whole of xmas is a social and business construct. The newspapers put out what the average person spends, to make people feel there is something wrong with them if they are not throwing out food

Also make people sweat looking for gift which people then give away as they do not like and they make insulting comments about the people who spent the money and stress on them. Now charities are in on it they want your unwanted gifts free to give to the less well off and rationlaise a large salary for for the charity staff and boss.


And of course if you do that you are not claiming a refund from the shops which makes more money for them. And the circular business and social construct continues

[Open Eyes]

Honestly, you can just celebrate that you survived and made it through another year. Sit and celebrate any positives you experienced too.

[Montykristo]

For me, it's not that a year has passed but another year has been given to me; to accomplish all which I couldn't manage previously. At the end, it's just a measure of time and we can almost do anything we want, without thinking about what year it is.