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Feb 01, 2020, 02:31 PM
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One of the burdens I think I’ve carried for many years is my wish to be liked or accepted. Trying to be a kind of normal person. Better said, even a nicer person because I had to try to kind of compensate my negative self-image. So much that I have been judging my behaviors, my words, gestures...and evaluating them according to my subjective perception of how I thought I have been perceived.
I understand why I do it. I’m not being hard on myself but understanding, however I realised today that it’s whatever but any positive. Not fair towards others, neither myself and don’t help me a single bit in my way to self-acceptance. I’m happy. I see it as a big step forward. Feel free to add your thoughts and share your experience. :-)
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#2
Feb 01, 2020, 02:41 PM
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Self-judgment can be a dangerous path, in my opinion. Glad you are feeling better!!!!
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Feb 03, 2020, 02:03 AM
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Yes, I can relate 110% to what you've said here, @AzulOscuro, and I'm very happy you're making your way forward now.
 Self love, self worth, trying to let go of negativity in the heart and mind, these are the things which may help you to grow and perhaps even overcome, once and for all, the difficult path God has selected for you.  I suffer with terrible social anxiety too, perhaps it's AvPD, and I have awful days all the time - including today - so, I know what you mean. It's difficult, yes. Very difficult. I can love myself now though, but I'm finding hard to have love for my fellow man a lot of the time, and I think that's my downfall. Nature and the joy of animals, help me bounce back from being triggered into lows, though. I'm happy for you AzulOscuro! Thank you! |
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Feb 03, 2020, 02:25 PM
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Thank you for sharing, I’m happy for you
 
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Feb 03, 2020, 04:58 PM
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Thank you both, Fuzzy and Mote of soul.
I’m not very optimistic in a change but it’s not something I came across suddenly, one day. It’s something spinning my mind for a long time. As any important thing I guess it takes a process, so I’m still at the starting point. And if it helps me to be a better person and fairer with other people, it will be worth.
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