[Aviza]

She cut my getting too long hair. Has games we play, and work we do. I'm happy to be here. It's not like before cause i can leave. I do miss my apartment but said I'd stay a week or two.

[sarahsweets]

How old is your mother?

[Aviza]

She's 70. High risk group, was getting very strange acting has calmed down with my prescence.

[sarahsweets]

Have you been seeing her frequently the entire time during this pandemic once they started shutting things down?

[Aviza]

Yes but felt restricted.

[divine1966]

So at 70 she like didn’t need care giving so what was the reason to visit her? You weren’t supposed to

I think it’s much better now that you moved in rather than going back and forth in violation of an order and everyone’s safety.

I find it more and more that people continue visiting family members for no reason. All while people continue getting sick and dying.

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by divine1966

So at 70 she like didn’t need care giving so what was the reason to visit her? You weren’t supposed to

I think it’s much better now that you moved in rather than going back and forth in violation of an order and everyone’s safety.

I find it more and more that people continue visiting family members for no reason. All while people continue getting sick and dying.

I’m glad you shared that Aviza moved back home. I thought she mentioned her rent went down so I thought she was on her own. You also nailed a point I was getting at. I asked the op those details because I was concerned that her mother was older and vulnerable.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I’m glad you shared that Aviza moved back home. I thought she mentioned her rent went down so I thought she was on her own. You also nailed a point I was getting at. I asked the op those details because I was concerned that her mother was older and vulnerable.

Aviza normally has her own place. I am under impression that Aviza is normally hangs out with mom often as they live close by but it was getting harder and harder as mom wanted to continue spending time and Aviza had hard time saying no (understdably). Staying with mom for now might be a good solution now!!!!

[Aviza]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Aviza normally has her own place. I am under impression that Aviza is normally hangs out with mom often as they live close by but it was getting harder and harder as mom wanted to continue spending time and Aviza had hard time saying no (understdably). Staying with mom for now might be a good solution now!!!!

That is exactly it. Some said still go see her, others said I'm exempt because i work in healthcare. But I felt the duration was too long, and it's too hard for me to follow. No one is exempt from coronavirus and I'm trying to follow the restrictions.

[sarahsweets]

I understand your desire to see your mom. I know you worry. But she is 70 years old, a prime candidate for Covid19. Have you been with your mother since March 1? As in living with her ? Or have you been going back and forth? I know you work but I do not know what you do. I’m assuming there is contact with the public and coworkers? If you have your own place, stay in it. Stay out of your mothers house. You can carry the virus and have no symptoms and infect your mother. Does she have any other health conditions? You said something about healthcare work being exempt. Is that what you do? If you are in contact with people and have exposure to patients then it’s even worse. Not only could you be a spreader, but you are still working and interacting with the public. Personally it’s to risky. I adore my mom. She lives a few miles from me. She is also an OR nurse and she is 67 with mild hypertension. I can’t visit with her. When she stopped over we stood masked in the driveway six feet a part. She lives alone. She told her boss that she wouldn’t be able to do anything other than surgical care. The OR was shut down and she said she would have to take leave because she can’t risk exposure. I made a thread about my brother an ICU nurse. He moved in with a coworker in order to keep his husband and my mom safe.

I know I’m rambling on but I take Covid very seriously I follow the guidelines. I do this because it’s selfish of me not to follow the guidelines. People who are not following the guidelines are not thinking about the people they could infect.

[Aviza]

Limited contact with the public. Scheduling taking payments. Mom wants me here. She's getting house ready to sell. I'm helping her.

She's taking precautions but not overly concerned.

[divine1966]

I know it might sound selfish not to visit elderly family members, but I think it’s more selfish to visit them. If you moved in, at least stay there. Don’t go back and forth. Although I’d be careful leaving your place empty. It’s subsidized housing. If you live elsewhere, you should give your place up. Unless of course it’s only few days or so