[boromichael]

I would like to start this where it began 12 years ago I found my so called brother had been messing with my wife at the time I can’t exactly tell you my emotions other than anger betrayal lost my confidence trust in everyone fast forward couple years I had relationships after relationships just couldn’t seem to trust found that I seen the bad in everyone my fault I know there’s no point in relationship if there is no trust .anyway 4 years ago met a girl who I thought was great she seemed to understand my feelings very thoughtful I was taking anti depressants pretty much all the relationship and found I was numb didn’t seem to feel anything emotion wise I explained this to her anyway I decided to call it a day about a year ago I felt no love and felt this was best decision no big fall out .Anyway in lockdown I was speaking to my parents (4months after split) they told me my ex was talking to them and said she was having a rough time with her kids my parents said why u not text see how she was as it was tough in lockdown .long story short we spoke and she was adamant she did not want relationship with me just the benefits side .I was very sceptical I didn’t want to hurt her feelings but she was adamant and she was more than happy this way so for couple months she came round mine and she was happy with this me I still felt she was going to get hurt .After lockdown the **** hit the fan I discovered my phone and tablets had been hacked by her spyware so she was watching my every move this freaked me out pretty much got to bottom of it totally pathetic because I had nothing to hide when confronted her she just laughed said u think to deeply iv got evidence but I have not spoken to since probs 4 month now still feeling she watching me via emails I should be getting my internet slowing down iv checked with provider everything ok on there side seems all along iv been gas lighted this what I’m saying barely scratches the surface of things that have happened

[Yaowen]

Dear boromichael,

That whole situation sounds so distressing and demoralizing. I do not know what I would do if I was in your place. You've been through so much and it seems like the stress is still continuing. Wish I knew what to say that would help.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[Fuzzybear]

I also wish I knew what to say that would be helpful. I just wanted to welcome you to pc. I hope you find pc to be a helpful, supportive place as I have