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Confused Nov 21, 2020 at 05:36 PM
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I like my therapist. I truly do—he is the most empathic person I know. But I am angry. I’m angry because he is trying to support me during this depressive episode. I’m angry that he wants me to reframe. I’m angry because I want to be left alone yet I continue to see him. I don’t understand myself. I ache and ache and break down sobbing if I spend any time thinking of the losses I’ve experience since March. I just want to sink into this pit of despair and be done with it.

I physically ache. My heart hurts. Does that happen to anyone else? Like your chest is caving in and there’s a deep dark ache? How can emotions physically hurt like that? I understand a headache or stomach kind of physical pain brought on by emotions but this is like the emotions themselves hurt.
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Default Nov 21, 2020 at 11:40 PM
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Can you share what the loss is?

The answer to your question is yes emotional grief can hurt and ache.

Usually if you need to talk about it it means that you are repeating to help yourself realize that it really did happen. And there is no way to change it. Then it takes time to learn how to navigate your life without whatever the loss is.
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Thanks Open Eyes. The losses include a job that I loved in a community I loved. And the many losses due to the pandemic—smaller things like my kids’ activities—graduation, theater, college, etc —and more significant —deaths due to pandemic.
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It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, so it’s understandable to feel the way you do. Grieving is also a personal thing; it can’t be rushed, but it is better for you in the long run to allow yourself to go through it. I appreciate it feels incredibly difficult, though.
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Default Nov 22, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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It does sound to me like you're literally experiencing the 'heartache' that life can have on a person @Ifeelstupid. Perhaps you just need to sit down and let a few tears come because so much anger - and I know what that's like - is really so much hurt.
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Default Dec 04, 2020 at 11:58 AM
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I think you need to discuss your issues with your therapist. It seems you are holding information from him. If you are angry often you should try working out it does wonders for anger issues.
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Thank you Prycejosh. I’m sorry I didn’t see this until now. I couldn’t bring myself to check in again. I reluctantly agree with you and actually did share (on my own which is a huge step) and the conversation is ongoing. Thanks for your wise counsel. It is a good validation that what I am doing is a good strategy. 🙂
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Default Dec 19, 2020 at 11:06 AM
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Thank you Mote.of.soul. I’m sorry I didn’t see this until now. I couldn’t bring myself to check in again. You are right. Tears are productive. Not being able to cry was the first external symptom of my depression. I’ve improved but it’s a long road. It is so challenging for me. I appreciate your gentle reminder.
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I like my therapist. I truly do—he is the most empathic person I know. But I am angry. I’m angry because he is trying to support me during this depressive episode. I’m angry that he wants me to reframe. I’m angry because I want to be left alone yet I continue to see him. I don’t understand myself. I ache and ache and break down sobbing if I spend any time thinking of the losses I’ve experience since March. I just want to sink into this pit of despair and be done with it.

I physically ache. My heart hurts. Does that happen to anyone else? Like your chest is caving in and there’s a deep dark ache? How can emotions physically hurt like that? I understand a headache or stomach kind of physical pain brought on by emotions but this is like the emotions themselves hurt.
Your not alone. I feel like this all the time.
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Default Jan 08, 2021 at 05:23 PM
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So Sorry for your Losses and to hear that you're struggling! Definitely discuss what you're experiencing and feeling with your therapist. If he's a good therapist he will understand what you're saying and Hopefully try to help you overcome this. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Ifeelstupid, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Jan 08, 2021 at 06:53 PM
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I physically ache. My heart hurts. Does that happen to anyone else? Like your chest is caving in and there’s a deep dark ache? How can emotions physically hurt like that? I understand a headache or stomach kind of physical pain brought on by emotions but this is like the emotions themselves hurt.
My soul aches a lot. It feels like a heaviness on top of my head, shoulders and chest, almost similar to defeat.

I don't know why emotions hurt. Maybe it's from the physical stress they cause on the body.

I'm an achy old soul.

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