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Default Dec 30, 2020 at 12:07 AM
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I will be the first one to admit that there is nothing about life that's fair.

However, I have found there are worse things. I mean, I ask people this question. How many times? 7? 10? 63? At what point do you say enough is enough? Saying this is the last time I'll ever allow anyone to beat me, abuse me, ridicule me, or insult me? I can't answer my own question except to say I've reached the end of my rope and there's no knot.

Some little girl started a feud with me online. I didn't do anything wrong, I'd have apologized long before now. This girl stuck her nose where it didn't belong and what happens? The next thing I know she's denigrating me all over the net and people I knew irl. Anyway, I can no longer show my face there and a lot of people I used to hang out with won't have anything to do with me anymore.

I lost all of my friends, but then I realized they weren't really my friends and frankly I'm fine with not having friends anymore. Seriously. People just pretend to like you so they can hurt you later on.

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Default Dec 30, 2020 at 08:32 PM
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Dear Werewoman,

I am so sorry that happened to you. False friends, in my opinion are worse than no friends at all. Maybe I am wrong. But that is how I feel. I think you are lucky to be free of your so-called friends!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Default Dec 31, 2020 at 08:00 AM
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Same here. I don't have anymore friends OR family.

So depressing... my brother has been my BFF for 10 years.. I had hoped he had changed. But it was becoming clear that he just wanted to come live with me when he and his wife divorced. Last winter I had a private talk with him and told him that wasn't going to happen. I have been clear with him that my home has issues that would make it impossible for him to stay where he thinks he is going to... (the basement) but he can't listen.

He never spoke to me again.

And didn't even have the decency to TELL me we weren't doing the holiday thing this year. I just was ghosted. (he did have a cousin facebook me, I suppose to spy on me)

I am not surprised... but always surprised how little people seem to be slightly concerned about MY feelings.

The only thing he should know is that the ONE thing I am really good at is dropping people from my life and never talking to them again. He made his choice.

Friends, what friends? There is almost no one even in the workplace that is worthy of being called a friend. They are all just users.
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Default Jan 02, 2021 at 06:49 AM
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Good grief but I am slow sometimes!

I have come to realize that the reason I always lose is because I simply am not capable of doing the things to others that they do to me.
Like the chick that I thought was my friend. First she invades my boundaries, then makes it look like I did something really terrible - completely made up by her, then goes around telling everyone in my social circle what I did and continued to add lie on top of lie, and all the while telling people I was attacking and threatening her and her friends. Sadly, it has now taken on a life of its own. People who used to be my friends think I'M the monster and she's been abused by me for over a year. I mean, somebody get me a shovel, would ya? It's getting deep...

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I have come to realize that the reason I always lose is because I simply am not capable of doing the things to others that they do to me...
But do you want to? I have come to conclude I don't. I will be G*** D*** if my life becomes something I don't want it to be because other people are jerks.

That isn't to say I haven't tightened up... my boundaries... my boss has temporary employees and I used to be friendly with them... but I realized... due to their temporary nature, I gave and gave and gave and NEVER saw them again once they left. So now they only get the absolute minimum. More punching bag, my boss dislikes this. He acts like there is something wrong with ME.

I had a co worker who used me but due to the pandemic... I haven't talked to her. I am sure she is upset but I am glad the friendship has been stopped by it.
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But do you want to? I have come to conclude I don't. I will be G*** D*** if my life becomes something I don't want it to be because other people are jerks.

That isn't to say I haven't tightened up... my boundaries... my boss has temporary employees and I used to be friendly with them... but I realized... due to their temporary nature, I gave and gave and gave and NEVER saw them again once they left. So now they only get the absolute minimum. More punching bag, my boss dislikes this. He acts like there is something wrong with ME.

I had a co worker who used me but due to the pandemic... I haven't talked to her. I am sure she is upset but I am glad the friendship has been stopped by it.
I agree. I made up my mind that I wasn't going to let it keep going, but I was hit with a LOT of hostility when I tried to stop it. If I had done something when it first started, you know, like, grabbing her bottom lip and pulling it up over her head, it would not have been any easier, but it would have made sense to people if I had been more aggressive, gone to all the events she went to and tell people she's a liar. I would have posted everything, which would have gotten me in trouble, but I can handle that. I should have gone to the same extremes she did.

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Default Jan 02, 2021 at 11:20 AM
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Unfortunately there are always going to be some people out there that just want to use you. The best thing to do is to try and recognize them as soon as you can and cut them out of your Life if you find them toxic. i am so Sorry that you're going through ALL of this and i Hope and Pray that you will find some inner and outer Peace soon! SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Werewoman, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Jan 08, 2021 at 09:51 AM
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I’m sorry some little girl behaved so poorly (how sad people like that are, I experienced similar on another forum, a couple of years ago. It is a bore, they are a bore

How can they think they are “superior” ... it would be funny if it was not so sad

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Default Jan 08, 2021 at 06:19 PM
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For me, I try to approach life with the motto of 'hope for the best, expect the worst'. This way I can be mentally prepared and not feel outfoxed when things suddenly go pear-shaped.

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