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Default Feb 14, 2021 at 07:40 PM
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Guys claim interest but not one messaged me today to wish me happy Valentine's day. I'm starting to feel this day is cursed for me. My 3rd marriage was on Valentine's day we won a contest. My last boyfriend dumped me on Valentine's day.

I think i cursed my Valentine's Day by getting married that day.

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I was sat at home making kiss faces with my own mouth, basically kissing the air

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Default Feb 15, 2021 at 01:27 PM
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This just my opinion- it doesnt have to be anyone elses- Valentines day is silly. it is a silly "holiday" that has dark origions and was steeped in religion until the 19th century or so when it became "the fashion" to start sending gifts. Once the greeting card/gift companies got in on it it became even more silly. Think about it. Do you want to be remembered on a preset day that everyone celebrates? Or would you prefer surprise thoughtfulness another day when you need a pick me up or when you are not expecting it? Would you rather insincere wishes on a hallmark holiday or something meaningful on a saturday? I've always believed that valentines day is mostly for young dating couples. I am married and I told my husband long ago that it was silly and I do not want him spending money on me and that if he felt really compelled to write me a letter. I think once your married your anniversery is what is important. I think even long term dating couples may feel this way too. When I had BF's in HS and college I thought V-day was the most important relationship day in the whole year. I think it was age appropriate of me to see it this way.

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Default Feb 15, 2021 at 01:47 PM
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Good post sara. I feel the same way. The only people I know extremely preoccupied with things like Valentine’s Day are high schoolers.

The other thing I noticed that people who aren’t content in their relationships are preoccupied with superficial expressions of love like did we go to a fancy restaurant on V day or did he get me this or that or do we act like romantic couples suppose to. When people are content (in relationship or single), they rarely go nuts over things like V Day. When I was single, which was actually most of my adult live, I could not care less about if other people celebrate V day and if they have romantic dinner that night. Why does it matter

I’d focus on living your life the best you could and not worry about commercial holiday or some guys wishing anything on that day
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Default Feb 15, 2021 at 03:26 PM
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i completely agree with the other wise and wonderful posters. i am so Sorry that this St. Valentine's Day is being difficult for you but try to treat it like a normal day although i understand it is hard. i don't think you were cursed. Please try to be kind to yourself. Do anything in your power to distract yourself. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Aviza, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Feb 16, 2021 at 06:24 AM
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I met a new man online on Valentine's Day. I am meeting him in two days. I did not expect any decent man to be on online dating apps. But, so far, he is really nice and talks about other things besides sex. It is going great so far. But, I will have to meet him until I know if it is going to work out. He is about 13 years older and is healthy and productive. I like his personality so far. Hopefully, we will meet and it will be a positive experience!

On the other hand, I did meet someone on Valentine's Day in person just for coffee. He wanted to take me to the hotel. I was disgusted! I left and never messaged him again.

So, Aviza, I understand how you feel!! But, don't let a jerk make you feel bad. Try to make lemonade out of lemons and may be a decent man may show up somewhere too for you!! Don't give up on believing in good men!
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Default Feb 16, 2021 at 11:44 AM
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Valantine’s Day is only one more event settled for encourage consumerism, another day to remember you what to do or remember what lacks in your life.
As a free person, I over any imposed celebration. I find myself the ones I like, when I want and how I want.

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Default Feb 17, 2021 at 09:04 PM
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I love Valentines Day. Typically its like a day of self love for me - its not just for couples, imo. I'm single - valentines weekend I got a massage, attended a zoom yoga class, and went to some fascinating lectures. I got to sleep well, and diagonally in my bed I like the idea of volunteering on valentines day too, but I didn't do that this year. There are many kinds of love, as well. Its a shame that women in particular are socialized to focus on only the romantic version of love (the Greeks had 7 or 8 types of love). In conjunction with this, many heterosexual men are socialized oppositely. I'm female, and yeah it would be great to have romantic love but imo, living without it is far from "the worst thing in the world." I can think of much worse. Like, just for instance, being married to a psychopath. I'm also not going to settle, and I know that the only "reason" I'm not with someone is bc I'm just not.

Well, valentines day is over I hope your day is going better today Aviza.

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