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Default Jun 25, 2021 at 09:41 AM
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Default Jul 07, 2021 at 04:34 PM
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@JH8854,

IMO it may not be desirable to get so heavily invested in someone online, existing as electrons flowing through network cables from some electronic venue. All those feelings, all the neurochemistry that gets stirred up by the emotions are for real flesh and blood people that your senses can see, feel smell and taste.

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Has anyone here experienced unrequited love and if so how did you process your emotions?

Yes, on several occasions throughout my life, have only in recent years come to understand Limerence, and how my experiences and behavior fall under that label. I am currently struggling with an LE(Limerent Event), I have good days and bad days, am working hard to keep from making a fool of myself.
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Default Jul 07, 2021 at 08:42 PM
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I ended up doing some things that were stupid and unacceptable for our relationship which I shouldn't have but given the context I thought were appropriate at the time and she got rightfully angry at me and said she couldn't take it any further and that my trust issues were too overwhelming and that she tried hard to prove she was legitimate but she couldn't tolerate how I had been acting.

Blaming, manipulative, abusive, not rightful anger or sensible, rational reasoning.



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I genuinely feel nearly traumatized from her detachment, and at the knowledge that it was my actions that caused our relationship to be cut short, so it was preventable.

I'm truly sorry.

It wasn't preventable though. It was who she (or he) was. It wasn't your actions.

Her behaviour reveals bad character.

You didn't lose anything beyond a fantasy.



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She found out I posted about her


How did she even find out?


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I tried to explain to her I didn't mean to hurt her and that my actions were out of insecurity and anxiety but she has cut me off completely. I should not have broken her boundaries and been disrespectful by talking about her behind her back.


1. Your actions were rational, not out of insecurity. It's rational to want to make sure you are not jumping into something stupid (e.g. catfish bull****)


2. You did not break her boundaries. You were not disrespectful. You did not talk about her behind her back. Because you did not give any info that could have identified her. SHE broke your boundaries by demanding you can't do basic, rational, sensible things.
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