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I'm faking the image of myself both on-line and in real life. "Nobody knows me at all".
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Glad you found comfort here. I think it's great we have a place we can be honest and open and hopefully develop a better understanding of what we truly need to progress.

Social media isn't really comparable. I have accounts but don't use them often. I notice when I do my 'friends' don't use it either these days but its useful for one real life activity group I'm in so I check for that.

I do find Facebook etc sinister with the algorithms that track us and how we are manipulated by the news feed we are given.
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I'm faking the image of myself both on-line and in real life. "Nobody knows me at all".
Interesting point!

We all may be able to dress a certain way to portray an image, or only reveal desired information to others, but I think people can’t help but show their essential personalities. Someone may be able to be an actor, playing a role of a different person, but they can only sustain it for a short time. Eventually, our selves, our personalities, come out and are exposed to others (if we are around others). This is just the impression I have found to be true IME. To isolate from others is very lonely.

It’s a work in progress to try to improve my better traits and curtail my worst ones. My motivation to be better, frankly, is because it makes it easier and more pleasant for me when I’m not locking horns with others. Otherwise, my essential personality feels adequate to me.

I remember feeling envious of a girl in elementary school. She was babyish cute, thumb sucking, and everyone adored her. They were sucking their thumbs to emulate her! I was aware I was not ‘cute’ and felt like her adorableness was more desirable than my personality was. But, that wasn’t true and I got past that quickly. I am who I am. I have other good qualities. I don’t want to be her and be phoney trying to be her. I was disgusted at the fake kids sucking their thumbs…posers!

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Interesting point!

We all may be able to dress a certain way to portray an image, or only reveal desired information to others, but I think people can’t help but show their essential personalities. Someone may be able to be an actor, playing a role of a different person, but they can only sustain it for a short time. Eventually, our selves, our personalities, come out and are exposed to others (if we are around others). This is just the impression I have found to be true IME. To isolate from others is very lonely.

It’s a work in progress to try to improve my better traits and curtail my worst ones. My motivation to be better, frankly, is because it makes it easier and more pleasant for me when I’m not locking horns with others. Otherwise, my essential personality feels adequate to me.

I remember feeling envious of a girl in elementary school. She was babyish cute, thumb sucking, and everyone adored her. They were sucking their thumbs to emulate her! I was aware I was not ‘cute’ and felt like her adorableness was more desirable than my personality was. But, that wasn’t true and I got past that quickly. I am who I am. I have other good qualities. I don’t want to be her and be phoney trying to be her. I was disgusted at the fake kids sucking their thumbs…posers!
Good for you, TishaBuv! Thank goodness!, because you are so unique & so very special!!

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Good for you, TishaBuv! Thank goodness!, because you are so unique & so very special!!
Aw shucks, BD. I’m really not unique at all. It does my heart good to be special to you, and you’re pretty great in my book, too. But, yeah, I guess I am kind of proud that I was never a follower or a wannabe.

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I feel the opposite. I feel like MSF is very cliquish especially on the bipolar check in thread. I often don’t feel supported or like I’m being heard. It’s annoying because it used to be a great site for me. I noticed when I left for a month the bipolar thread was going really slow. And only one person asked where I was the entire month. Other people looked at my account to be nosy and I could tell they didn’t care where I was. Usually they get through a check in thread in a couple weeks but it took a lot longer for them to get through one when I was gone. So I post on there a lot but I rarely ever get any feedback.

Also making new threads in the therapy section is kind of useless now for me since people on there think I’m doing stuff on purpose because I “like it” when sometimes mental health providers just really suck.

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I feel the opposite. I feel like MSF is very cliquish especially on the bipolar check in thread. I often don’t feel supported or like I’m being heard. It’s annoying because it used to be a great site for me. I noticed when I left for a month the bipolar thread was going really slow. And only one person asked where I was the entire month. Other people looked at my account to be nosy and I could tell they didn’t care where I was. Usually they get through a check in thread in a couple weeks but it took a lot longer for them to get through one when I was gone. So I post on there a lot but I rarely ever get any feedback.

Also making new threads in the therapy section is kind of useless now for me since people on there think I’m doing stuff on purpose because I “like it” when sometimes mental health providers just really suck.
You are an active member for a long time here, and I like how you sometimes start posts about social chat topics. . You post interesting questions that get all kinds of varying responses from people.

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Somebody hurt my feelings today on another site. They said they had a bug in their house that jumped very high and described it, and said they were in search of an entomologist. I said i found a similar bug in my house last week and its leap surprised me, and that i thought it might be a baby cockroach. Well i guess that insinuation insulted them because they said theirs didnt leap. So i googled the definition of leap. Im not usually wrong when i use a word. I wrote back and said they could also use an etymologist.

And i wonder why i dont have any friends.

But oh i could not resist. The joke was right there in your face. And really, do not nitpick my vocabulary. Esp when i was the only person responding to your bug post. But i hope i dont get blocked there. I cant decide if i was mean or she was.
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I feel the opposite. I feel like MSF is very cliquish especially on the bipolar check in thread. I often don’t feel supported or like I’m being heard. It’s annoying because it used to be a great site for me. I noticed when I left for a month the bipolar thread was going really slow. And only one person asked where I was the entire month. Other people looked at my account to be nosy and I could tell they didn’t care where I was. Usually they get through a check in thread in a couple weeks but it took a lot longer for them to get through one when I was gone. So I post on there a lot but I rarely ever get any feedback.

Also making new threads in the therapy section is kind of useless now for me since people on there think I’m doing stuff on purpose because I “like it” when sometimes mental health providers just really suck.
How sad. I'm so sorry about this! I guess even here there are hurtful people. But I honestly think they are in the minority in these forums. I sure hope so. Hugs & love to you!

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I feel the opposite. I feel like MSF is very cliquish especially on the bipolar check in thread. I often don’t feel supported or like I’m being heard. It’s annoying because it used to be a great site for me. I noticed when I left for a month the bipolar thread was going really slow. And only one person asked where I was the entire month. Other people looked at my account to be nosy and I could tell they didn’t care where I was. Usually they get through a check in thread in a couple weeks but it took a lot longer for them to get through one when I was gone. So I post on there a lot but I rarely ever get any feedback.

Also making new threads in the therapy section is kind of useless now for me since people on there think I’m doing stuff on purpose because I “like it” when sometimes mental health providers just really suck.

I wondered where you were when you were gone and hoped you were ok.
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Somebody hurt my feelings today on another site. They said they had a bug in their house that jumped very high and described it, and said they were in search of an entomologist. I said i found a similar bug in my house last week and its leap surprised me, and that i thought it might be a baby cockroach. Well i guess that insinuation insulted them because they said theirs didnt leap. So i googled the definition of leap. Im not usually wrong when i use a word. I wrote back and said they could also use an etymologist.

And i wonder why i dont have any friends.

But oh i could not resist. The joke was right there in your face. And really, do not nitpick my vocabulary. Esp when i was the only person responding to your bug post. But i hope i dont get blocked there. I cant decide if i was mean or she was.
It sounds like you really bugged her! (I had to look up your big, fancy words to get the joke )

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Somebody hurt my feelings today on another site. They said they had a bug in their house that jumped very high and described it, and said they were in search of an entomologist. I said i found a similar bug in my house last week and its leap surprised me, and that i thought it might be a baby cockroach. Well i guess that insinuation insulted them because they said theirs didnt leap. So i googled the definition of leap. Im not usually wrong when i use a word. I wrote back and said they could also use an etymologist.

And i wonder why i dont have any friends.

But oh i could not resist. The joke was right there in your face. And really, do not nitpick my vocabulary. Esp when i was the only person responding to your bug post. But i hope i dont get blocked there. I cant decide if i was mean or she was.

Maybe it will go over her head.
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Maybe it will go over her head.
LOL. I dont know WHERE my bug flew! It was a middle of the night bathroom visit, and i was not in the mood to look for it!
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LOL. I dont know WHERE my bug flew! It was a middle of the night bathroom visit, and i was not in the mood to look for it!

You really are good with words! Was talking about your joke!

Yeah in the middle of the night I would not be in the mood to look for a bug / roommate, either.


Did you ever see the meme about the spider who thinks its just your roommate?

Edit: I imagined the person you were describing as a "she" for some reason but I now see you said "they" / "this person." Oops m'bad.
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I feel the opposite. I feel like MSF is very cliquish especially on the bipolar check in thread. I often don’t feel supported or like I’m being heard. It’s annoying because it used to be a great site for me. I noticed when I left for a month the bipolar thread was going really slow. And only one person asked where I was the entire month. Other people looked at my account to be nosy and I could tell they didn’t care where I was. Usually they get through a check in thread in a couple weeks but it took a lot longer for them to get through one when I was gone. So I post on there a lot but I rarely ever get any feedback.

Also making new threads in the therapy section is kind of useless now for me since people on there think I’m doing stuff on purpose because I “like it” when sometimes mental health providers just really suck.

I’m ignored on the bipolar forum too , I’m guessing because I said I’m no longer on medication, with my psychiatrists approval, and maybe also that I work full time, I don’t know.

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Thanks. Oh no, it was a she! I didnt use "she" until the last line of my post! I was around when they first started saying chairperson, and airline attendant (instead of "stewardess" - i bet Gen Z doesnt even know that one), so i may have adopted they/them whether the person wants to use them or not. Thats interesting. Hmm.
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I have enjoyed both of your posts and am glad to know you.

When I first came to PC in 2016, I replied to a lot of posts and feel proud of responding (I took more time to post) but there have been other things I need and want to do and there is only so much time in the day. And I saw a cock roach this morning , so cleaning is one of them and I am sure I don't get many of Unaluna's jokes but always appreciate when people try to lift the mood of a thread with humor because some of us need cheering up.
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Thanks. It’s just some of the support on the other specific threads are not as great as on the general social thread. But I know it’s also me as well. I can be pretty *****y at times.

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It just seems to be a few members who respond to each other’s post but don’t really pay much attention to anyone else. But I’ve gotten into it a few times with a couple members who have now blocked me. But I get upset in the first place because of the lack of support and feedback I get on that thread. I know it’s my fault too with how I manage my meds. I have to remind myself that the members on MSF are not mental health providers but just random people on the internet and I shouldn’t be seeking legit advice from anyone.

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It just seems to be a few members who respond to each other’s post but don’t really pay much attention to anyone else. But I’ve gotten into it a few times with a couple members who have now blocked me. But I get upset in the first place because of the lack of support and feedback I get on that thread. I know it’s my fault too with how I manage my meds. I have to remind myself that the members on MSF are not mental health providers but just random people on the internet and I shouldn’t be seeking legit advice from anyone.

Not random and not mental health providers.

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