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Looking back at my "progress" I honestly don't know how I'm going to overcome it all one day.


What are the prospects for the people like me? We barely talk, we refuse to ask for help so people have to come to you... we just let our **** drown us slowly but steady.

The pandemic has made it really easy to self-isolate in some places. Mine's one of them. Nobody would know if I just break in two these days. I'm done with my last doc, found a new one but he's way over his capacity bc he hasn't reached back. Now I'm rambling because I don't want to confront my bed, even though I have to get back to work in 4 hours? 4ish anyway...

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If more s*** goes in than comes out, then you have to either reduce the amount coming in, and/or increase the amount going out. Remove more negativity or remove it faster, without being destructive with consequences to yourself or to others. Or remove by reprocessing into a positive. And/or minimise negativity around you. You can minimise by avoiding, sometimes that's the one immediate strategy you have to reach for, as you don't have time to figure out more yet. You can also minimise by doing processing to build up your boundaries, both internal boundaries and external ones. Also by practicing to push the negative away (can be a more visible boundary than the purely mental boundaries). So you do any of or each of these things, or otherwise you'll burn out and crash eventually.
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So Sorry you're struggling! Please do not give up! i agree with the wise and wonderful Alive99. Just do whatever you can to cope with this situation. i think this pandemic may have really exacerbated some of the issues we already had before. i feel like finding a good doctor may go a long way. Definitely try to seek assistance. Hopefully things will improve soon for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @lowpoint, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Looking back at my "progress" I honestly don't know how I'm going to overcome it all one day.


What are the prospects for the people like me? We barely talk, we refuse to ask for help so people have to come to you... we just let our **** drown us slowly but steady.

The pandemic has made it really easy to self-isolate in some places. Mine's one of them. Nobody would know if I just break in two these days. I'm done with my last doc, found a new one but he's way over his capacity bc he hasn't reached back. Now I'm rambling because I don't want to confront my bed, even though I have to get back to work in 4 hours? 4ish anyway...

What kind of work do you do? Why don’t you want to confront your bed? Unmade? Or inability to sleep?

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If more s*** goes in than comes out, then you have to either reduce the amount coming in, and/or increase the amount going out. Remove more negativity or remove it faster, without being destructive with consequences to yourself or to others. Or remove by reprocessing into a positive. And/or minimise negativity around you. You can minimise by avoiding, sometimes that's the one immediate strategy you have to reach for, as you don't have time to figure out more yet. You can also minimise by doing processing to build up your boundaries, both internal boundaries and external ones. Also by practicing to push the negative away (can be a more visible boundary than the purely mental boundaries). So you do any of or each of these things, or otherwise you'll burn out and crash eventually.

waiting for that wave now, i dont know how to set any boundaries - avoiding stuff has paid off somehow over the last few months though, at least i've managed to keep my job that way, just going blank.

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So Sorry you're struggling! Please do not give up! i agree with the wise and wonderful Alive99. Just do whatever you can to cope with this situation. i think this pandemic may have really exacerbated some of the issues we already had before. i feel like finding a good doctor may go a long way. Definitely try to seek assistance. Hopefully things will improve soon for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @lowpoint, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!


thanks mickey, i've been trying to get ahold of a new doc for a while now, but i dont have any "real" money so i have to bear with my ****** service for now. Im trying right now

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What kind of work do you do? Why don’t you want to confront your bed? Unmade? Or inability to sleep?

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WFH - doing comms. for a startup, it's a nice job ngl, and it has its own perks -


avoiding bedtime is my new? thing these days. It just feels dreadful to be alone there with my thoughts -- im not having any insomnia issues lately which im thankful for i guess, but i don't sleep well either (too much or too little) and my guess is that everything is related to me avoiding bedtime.. going late to bed knowing i have to get up early next morning is kind of my way of making sure im too tired to fight with myself, i dont know if that makes sense - always tired, always a bit sleepy, you know?

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waiting for that wave now, i dont know how to set any boundaries - avoiding stuff has paid off somehow over the last few months though, at least i've managed to keep my job that way, just going blank.

You can learn that in therapy & through psychoeducation. Even free online psychoeducation.

And yeah, I know what you mean by going blank. It is needed sometimes, yeah. Just please do not do it for too long or it will create more problems. Such coping mechanisms are okay for a while but then you have to move forward to actually dealing with the issues.

Good luck!!
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If more s*** goes in than comes out, then you have to either reduce the amount coming in, and/or increase the amount going out. Remove more negativity or remove it faster, without being destructive with consequences to yourself or to others. Or remove by reprocessing into a positive. And/or minimise negativity around you. You can minimise by avoiding, sometimes that's the one immediate strategy you have to reach for, as you don't have time to figure out more yet. You can also minimise by doing processing to build up your boundaries, both internal boundaries and external ones. Also by practicing to push the negative away (can be a more visible boundary than the purely mental boundaries). So you do any of or each of these things, or otherwise you'll burn out and crash eventually.
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