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Nov 09, 2021 at 12:23 PM
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I feel like I'm always going out of my way for people all the time, and than I end up being taken for granted. The feeling is awful. So I'm trying not to do so much for people, but the thing is I'm such a caring and loving person. Sometimes I get told I am selfish because I won't help them or they end up getting sad because I am speaking my feelings to them. "Oh I guess I'm just a useless friend than." I feel like this a manipulation tactic, but I can't be sure. I'm always going out of my way for people who simply take me for granted and only come to me whenever they need me, but when I need them, their not there for me. So I'm trying to not go out of my way for people all the time anymore. Is this wrong of me? I'm hurting pretty badly right now because it seems like everything I do, I end up failing or the person gets upset when I speak my feelings towards them. I'm just tired of being walked over, because it makes me feel useless in the end.
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Nov 09, 2021 at 12:53 PM
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 What if you reorient your desire to help, aim it more towards organizations, and do some [more?] volunteering? Organizations will be grateful for your help and they won't use emotional blackmail on you! |
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Nov 23, 2021 at 08:47 PM
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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