Are you prone to put yourself in the victim role?

AzulOscuro · Jan 08, 2022 at 02:22 AM

Well, you achieved the same as me but by yourself.
All ways drive to Rome. The important is that you, me are opened to progress. This is the most important.

Marie123 · Jan 08, 2022 at 06:55 AM

I have never felt like a victim,rather an overcomer! I overcame a childhood of verbal and physical abuse from a violent mother, didn't know my father (met him when Iwas 30) poverty (no phone car refrigerator, tub or shower) in a 120-year old tenement house with bad neighbors, molested, then a 31 year abusive marriage (got a divorce), then abuse from a church. I took all of the "ashes" of my life and kept on going, my life story won a scholarship, and I started school at 60.

downandlonely · Jan 08, 2022 at 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Marie123

I have never felt like a victim,rather an overcomer! I overcame a childhood of verbal and physical abuse from a violent mother, didn't know my father (met him when Iwas 30) poverty (no phone car refrigerator, tub or shower) in a 120-year old tenement house with bad neighbors, molested, then a 31 year abusive marriage (got a divorce), then abuse from a church. I took all of the "ashes" of my life and kept on going, my life story won a scholarship, and I started school at 60.

What an incredible story! I bet you are proud you were able to overcome so much and make a new beginning.

AzulOscuro · Jan 11, 2022 at 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Marie123

I have never felt like a victim,rather an overcomer! I overcame a childhood of verbal and physical abuse from a violent mother, didn't know my father (met him when Iwas 30) poverty (no phone car refrigerator, tub or shower) in a 120-year old tenement house with bad neighbors, molested, then a 31 year abusive marriage (got a divorce), then abuse from a church. I took all of the "ashes" of my life and kept on going, my life story won a scholarship, and I started school at 60.

Very brave on your part! 😀 You rock!

Sohappy · Feb 14, 2022 at 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

I ask this question because I think everyone in one moment or another felt the temptation to play the role of a victim.
In my opinion it’s a defence mechanism but most of the times is fruitless. The interesting thing is the why.
What takes you to play such a role? what are you trying to compensate? What did it tell you about yourself? What’s not working out?

I’ve been playing the victim role for many years. Not in a aware way. Just the opposite. I believed myself a victim. I used to walk on tiptoes as if I were less than anybody. As if I had to beg pardon for existing. I’m still wondering myself why. The why is the key, in my opinion. Maybe it was because I felt weak or I interpret from someone else that I was weak. I only know that this has been my way to pass through life until at about a couple of months.

I guess I "play the victim" because I want them to genuinely believe how sorry I am for upsetting them and stop hating me by bringing it up so many times and I hope they don't hold my mistakes against me.

AzulOscuro · Mar 02, 2022 at 06:21 PM

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I guess I "play the victim" because I want them to genuinely believe how sorry I am for upsetting them and stop hating me by bringing it up so many times and I hope they don't hold my mistakes against me.

Don’t forget it’s a defence mechanism. As long as you notice it, the better you are gonna do things beforehand. I’m sure. 😀

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