[black-roses]

So angry at mum blaming me for like being friends with Jack I mean I didn't know he was a perverse asshole... I mean she's a hypocrite judging me for being friends with him when she put up with my dad's abuse for 17 years which is the whole reason I have PTSD in the first place. Why the **** is it my f****g fault that guys hurt me she can get f****d lazy *****.

[RoxanneToto]

I’m sorry about what happened to you, some people are just evil.
Maybe she’s victim blaming you because she secretly feels ashamed of tolerating your dad’s abuse, and she’s projecting that onto you? I’m only speculating though. My mum has also been similarly weird about my friendships and relationships before, though it’s more along the lines of invalidation and being more concerned with guy’s feelings than mine. But, as someone else said to me in another post, your mother’s opinions on your relationships aren’t relevant.

[black-roses]

That's very true I do care to much about what she thinks and let her make me bad for my history.

[black-roses]

I also think she's ashamed of tolerating dad's abuse she does say she wished she got rid of him a lot earlier. Sometimes she contradicts herself... She confuses me a lot sometimes. She said she has trauma from the courts which is understandable they didn't do much to help her.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by black-roses

So angry at mum blaming me for like being friends with Jack I mean I didn't know he was a perverse asshole... I mean she's a hypocrite judging me for being friends with him when she put up with my dad's abuse for 17 years which is the whole reason I have PTSD in the first place. Why the **** is it my f****g fault that guys hurt me she can get f****d lazy *****.

I’m sorry that you were blamed for things that were not your fault. Take it easy on yourself.

[Aviza]

That sucks. Sorry about your mom's reaction. maybe she's jealous you didn't put up with abuse longterm like she did. I have a weird relationship with my mom too.