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We had just watched the superbowl with my wife, my brother-in-law and his girlfriend. his daughters and my two sons ages 17, 15, 2 and three were in the house. We started arguing about the half time show and what made me so angry was that my brother-in-law girlfriend had an opinion that I didn't agree with and she would not let me complete a single counter thought.
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Sorry that happened to you. Something similar happened to me before. Wish I knew what to say to help.
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Sorry that happened maybe apologize.
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How often does something like this happen?
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What would you think of attending an anger management program or seeing a therapist for help with anger management?
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Anger issues & liquor NEVER mix well to start with. Takes away the ability to be mindful about what you say & how you act.
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This may surprise you but I’m glad you got your true feelings out.
Although booze and emotions don’t mix , it gave you the courage to be honest ! It’s to the point now in our society where you can’t say a word unless it’s “politically correct”. BTW : The Super Bowl halftime show was garbage and I would get my kids out of the room immediately. That’s why I don’t even want to watch nothing but highlights when it comes to professional sports. Apologize if you feel you need too but just remember. Boozed up or not , you’ll never be able to have an even keel discussion with certain people. __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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Well, the good news is that you take responsibility for your part in it. There there are always situations where emotions can get out of control and nobody seems to be able to back down. It happens to everyone and even when it's something that seems dumb it's probably not just that one thing, kwim?
Since you asked for suggestions, the way I usually look at things like that postmortem is to analyze whether I seemed to be the one baiting the other person or whether they were baiting me more. It doesn't really matter who's pushing the argument to greater heights but it can be helpful to analyze your part in it for future reference. If you didn't like it and you can figure out what went wrong you can make sure it doesn't happen again. Did you feel like arguing or did you get sucked into it? It can also give you a basis to figure out if you need to be the one to apologize. |
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Perhaps you can go on YouTube and search for "anger triggers" on how to avoid them and what causes them. There may be some helpful discussion on it or not by counselors and life coaches.
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Sometimes we need to change the way of taking things out. Imo, anger is a very powerful emotion and energy, which should be used very carefully. It can either make you fall apart or will make you stronger. The choice is always ours. And we can’t blame someone for our behaviour.
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Anger issues can’t be solved with drinking. Drinking can actually take over the mind and can lead to make decisions recklessly.
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