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Default May 22, 2022 at 08:04 AM
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I’ve gained 15 pounds in four years and am not happy about it. My weight goes up and down and I’m not happy with that either. I need to exercise, I know, and I don’t. I’m going to have to force myself. My husband and I want to buy an in - home exercise bike. I would get up in the morning and would get on the bike - this I know.

But right now it’s hard for me to imagine being able to lose the 15 pounds and that’s depressing me. We eat junk foods sometimes and while I enjoy it immensely it’s not helping, I know.

And I’m over 50 years old so I know my metabolism has slowed which only just makes it that much harder to lose weight.

And Covid certainly doesn’t help any either. It only just makes things worse. I want to eat more since we’re home more.

I’m very frustrated. Can anyone relate to any of this? It just seems too hard to lose 15 pounds and I feel depressed about the weight gain.

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Default May 22, 2022 at 10:50 AM
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I gained ton of weight myself. Well weight loss starts in the kitchen, you tone it up in the gym but it starts with eating less and healthier foods.

I know for me it is what I eat and how much. Bottom line I eat too much and not always healthy. I like bread lol I do eat ton of veggies and fruits but then I off set it by loading on breads. And now my husband bakes bread. Lol it’s too delicious, that doesn’t help

Weight doesn’t cause me emotional distress but it sure is bad for my physical health I have a very small frame so extra weight is no good for me
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Default May 22, 2022 at 12:49 PM
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I know it's a matter of eating less and the right foods, but with my husband, that's nearly impossible. He keeps junk food and sweets in the house, and I like to do emotional eating, so it's a recipe for disaster.

I just wish I could figure out how to do this during covid and while I'm home 80% of the time since I work from home. An exercise bike would help, and we really want one, but it is an expense we have to save $$ for.

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Default May 22, 2022 at 01:26 PM
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Plus, a medication I’m on causes significant weight gain. It makes me hungrier, so I eat more. I’m coming off this med entirely in one week though.

And I used to pride myself on being thin, for most of my life. That's why the weight gain is so hard on me.

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Default May 22, 2022 at 04:33 PM
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How about you focus on something to pride yourself on besides thinness/looks. Like other qualities. Like inner qualities. Just switch the gear. I was always very thin. I am not anymore. Even if I lose weight I’d not be very thin as it might not even be healthy. But I am still the same person and I am proud of other things. Thinness isn’t a virtue. And frankly often times it’s not an accomplishment. Sometimes it’s just good metabolism or genetics. Not like being proud about getting PhD

Of course it’s healthier to be thinner. So for health reasons it’s good to not be overweight. Exercising is good. I hate stationary bikes though. It hurts my knee and it’s boring and I am lazy. But people like it. Yeah good idea to buy one.

I need to lose weight too so I understand. I think I am just not very determined.

Oh tell your husband to keep junk in the car. Lock in a trunk. Don’t bring it home. Mine likes to buy crap too. But he gets better about it because he doesn’t want to be chewed out by me. We’ve been ordering food to be delivered or curb side pick up so we aren’t tempted to buy junk when we see it in the aisle.
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Default May 23, 2022 at 05:44 AM
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Yes, I should focus on other things, but I cannot help it. It's engrained in me about how I look. My mother was always weight conscious as a ballet dancer and was always dieting while growing up. My sister is very very thin and so is my mother now. My mother has commented on my weight gain and has tried to help me to diet. I just don't feel as good as I used to feel, or half as sexy. I am very weight conscious and body conscious, so it's hard for me to just accept this weight gain and look at other qualities within myself.

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Default May 25, 2022 at 06:57 AM
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I think we all have a weight we feel ‘right’ at, a healthy BMI, if we go over or under by a lot then it’s natural to feel fed up. Meds can really tip the metabolism, I put half a stone on with amitriptyline (low dose for nerve pain) it came off once I stopped the med. I just didn’t feel quite right with that extra weight so I know what you mean. I also didn’t feel right when I lost too much weight with anxiety a few years back too so it works both ways.

I do have an exercise bike gathering dust - I personally find it extremely boring but if you’re tied to the house I can see it might be okay. If you are able, either before or after working hours, to go outdoors and walk briskly for half an hour or that could help boost your metabolic rate. It can help with stress management too.

One thing I have found is when I am in a good exercise regimen I tend to make healthier food choices too, maybe it’s because I’m aware it’s harder to exercise with a poorer diet- so for me the two things dovetail together.

If you were up for running couch to 5k is a great programme, and although I wouldn’t overstate the calorie burn it does help.
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Default May 26, 2022 at 04:03 PM
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Agreed and thanks for your post!

Since starting this thread I’ve begun a diet! I’m ready to shed this extra weight!!!

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