[Aviza]

I never had a partner that worked as a team. Seeing couples who are just makes my heart ache for what I always wanted and never had. I hate my life. I really wish it would end cause I'm never going to have what I dreamed of.

My aunt and her husband just celebrated 50 years. I'll never have that. I'll never have the big family I wanted. I couldn't go to their celebration, money and distance. So I didn't get to see my family I haven't seen in years.

Good couples are everywhere except in my personal life. Part of it is my mental illness, part of it is my choices. Part of it just that I'm a person that attracts users. I'm beautiful. People less attractive have better marriages because people have different expectations of those kind of people. I'm expected to be a trophy to always look my best, I don't.

I'm just crying again because my life is lemons.

[downandlonely]

I can relate to being beautiful and attracting the wrong types of people. I've actually been happier since I got a breast reduction and gained weight. I don't get hit on by creeps anymore.

[divine1966]

I think looks are irrelevant to how life plays out in relationships and marriages. In addition looks are very subjective.

Also just because some marriages appear happy you’ve no idea what’s going on behind the doors.

And with 50% divorce rate for first marriages and even much higher rate for second marriages you can’t really make a conclusion about anything what’s going on in other peoples lives and marriages

I also don’t understand what you mean by expectation of being a trophy. I don’t know what makes you think so.

Attracting wrong people usually derives from upbringing and family of origin, often repeating familiar patterns, sometimes it’s low standards, sometimes poor decision making abilities etc You aren’t attracting wrong men because you are good looking.

[rechu]

I don't know how much attractiveness plays a role in this. Attractive people marry, average people marry, ugly people marry. A percentage of each group divorces. Others have successful relationships.


Maybe it would be a better use of your time to take a look at the patterns from your past. Why did you choose to marry these men? What were the reasons for divorcing? Maybe that would give you some insight for your dating/romantic life going forward.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by rechu

I don't know how much attractiveness plays a role in this. Attractive people marry, average people marry, ugly people marry. A percentage of each group divorces. Others have successful relationships.

Maybe it would be a better use of your time to take a look at the patterns from your past. Why did you choose to marry these men? What were the reasons for divorcing? Maybe that would give you some insight for your dating/romantic life going forward.