[black-roses]

My anxiety is this I know if I don't eventually work I'll have no one or anything to save me and the problem is the gap on my resume is now way to wide to explain. I just feel like how am I ment to explain ten years of not working do I even have a chance. It just makes me so sad and stupid thinking that someone would love me and sweep me up on my feet. No one is going to love me and there is no prince or whatever so I have to take care of me because nobody else is going to help me. It just breaks my heart that I've been unemployed for so long. Just decades of good working youth wasted because of my craziness. Argh I wish I wasn't so pathetic. The truth is I didn't even bother looking for work did I I tried to study but they'd kick me. I'm too blame for my predicament and been living with my head in the clouds to understand how real life works there is no love. There is no white picket fence and I'm too ordinary to ever be noticed just angry that I'd ever think I'd have all those things when I won't. I should of been working ages ago and not making excuses for myself. I'm too blame for my failure I'm too blame for not reaching out and finding skills. Now it's too late to turn the clock I'm getting older too. Nobody wants an ordinary person who lives with their mum. There's nothing to love and there is no such thing of that.

[Molinit]

If you don't work, what will happen? Would you get some sort of disability from the government?

I have seen threads in the past from you where you seem to be searching for a career you could enjoy and are good at. I hate to say it, but many people just work and don't have a particular talent for the work or particularly like the work. I'm like that--work serves a purpose because it pays me so I can pay for my home, my car and my utilities. That's it. The job is okay, not much more than that, and I get paid an okay amount.

Truthfully, that's what life is. You can sit and kick yourself about all the time you've wasted or you can decide Monday that you are going to apply for a job. Apply for a job a day somewhere - anywhere. It's a numbers game. The more applications you put in, the more chances you'll have to be offered a job. If you don't start taking action, you are going to be here 5 years from now still kicking yourself about wasting time.

On the other hand, if you qualify for disability in your country, you can do that and the burden of working will not be yours. I don't know of any government that offers a person a really good income if they get benefits, so you will also be choosing to have financial struggles (most likely).

[VabGirl]

Working in HR i can say many times they dont even check on employment. They do criminal background checks and maybe credit.

[divine1966]

It’s certainly not too late to get a job. You won’t know if you can do it until you try

[Nammu]

What molinit said. Most people don’t have the luxury of picking a career they’d be “happy” in. They do what they can to make ends meet. While I was going to the u I washed dishes, worked in a factory and sorted vegetables. To pay for the things I needed. When you mentioned being a chief it sounds like a fantasy because you don’t even clean, do you cook for your mom? Do you enjoy it? It’s not based on reality. You need to be cooking in the now, to be a chief later.

[divine1966]

Does beauty industry interest you? It’s a great career if you are into it.

Is your goal to become employed? If yes then I’d say talk to vocational disability services and let them find you a job or maybe go try a couple of jobs?

[Discombobulated]

It’s been my experience too that any work is better than none, and I also had a period of unemployment in my youth too so understand how soul destroying it is not to be employed.

Would you be able to do a basic level job for a bit, just to get you some experience, a work record, confidence and money?

[black-roses]

I could do barista course

[Nammu]

How about getting a job at Woolworth or a restaurant? You need no courses and just need to show up and do the work. It would be a morale booster to be doing something productive. Then when you’re ready you can take the barista course.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by black-roses

I could do barista course

Sure. But I’d not be taking anymore courses at this point. Go get unskilled job for awhile or a job that trains you right there and see how it goes. You might end up again wasting more time studying something that you don’t know if you have an aptitude for.