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[Please sorry for any mistake, i am not american neither british]
Eleven years ago i was 24 y.o. working in engineering company... as a general service admin person Had already messed up with university and people did make me feel a living mistake for that. I was born poor, so I did trash an opportunity and making my grandma sad Yet, i did find the job by myself and kept i But apathy... i couldnt hand it very well. I was a toxic girlfriend. Me and my boyfriend weren't in love with each others, but i didn't break, neither did him (even if both of us cheated once) I am serious here: i sometimes look back and think that maybe a chamomile tea and a resolutions list could have helped me more than going into psychotherapy. I am not the type of person to blame professionals, but i do more practical things when i make my own schedule But at 24 i did feel too old already, cause back in the days failing with university was such a taboo I don't remember from here, how i managed to survive without being killed, cause everyone seemed to hate me I wish I was more mature and go back to the living path insted of trashing my life This is a very common story, isn't it? |
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@Gasplessy you communicate well in English. No need to apologize.
I made many mistakes along the way but at some point I realized I had to let go and stop beating myself for having walked a different path than my parents expected. I hope you get the support you are looking for. CANDC [If you want me to see your reply to this post please include @CANDC in your message - not in requoting my message] __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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I think it is a common story, yes Gasplessy. Regretting the past is quite common. I have things in my past, things I did, that I wish never happened - evils! Even some things I did as a child(!) that still make me have ill-feeling toward myself. A mental health professional might say that it's unresolved issues but to me there's nothing to resolve: what happened, happened, and I should feel bad about it - I just accept it, warts and all - because it would be weird to feel happy, or to feel nothing about it. And I look at other people and I know I'm not unique. People who judge you for past deeds? - well, lets break down their lives and have a gander shall we? Anyway, sending you great support Gasplessy, I know you've been through a lot __________________ "A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it."- Dōgen
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Thank you for your thoughful, kind replies
I guess the current family state makes it harder Well it is been like that for a while |
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