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Old Aug 14, 2025, 04:30 AM
EglantineRose EglantineRose is offline
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Hello.
So, I am 32 turning 33 later this year.
I am currently living with one of my parents, to whom I pay rent. I am in the final year of my (second) bachelors degree.

I have received a lot of negative comments about my current living situation, which makes me feel quite bad. Some people have made comments like "oh, at her age you'd think she'd want to live on her own!' and other people making comments about how I'm old to be in university.

About my housing: I tried seeing if I could move out, but the costs I would incur would be too much for me with my current income level. I am hoping that after I finish this degree next year I will be able to move.
I completed my first degree in my 20s and went back again later because I really enjoy learning. There are a few other people in their 30s in my program.

Anyways, I'm very sensitive about other people's opinions, especially because I'm also dealing with quite a bit of depression and anxiety and am struggling with life in general. I'm doing what I can do considering the circumstances.
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Old Aug 14, 2025, 07:44 AM
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Dont worry about what people say. Its not worth the aggravation and anxiety its giving you. You making your life better! Give it some time. Then get a job in your field and get some space.

People love to talk no matter. Next you will get a apartment and they will complain about that. Do your best, love yourself, and hek what people say!
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Old Aug 14, 2025, 11:15 AM
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This is something you will encounter in life - wherever you go and whatever you do. People love judging. Let them.

Focus on you and your life.
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Old Aug 14, 2025, 11:39 AM
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Lots of people your age are still living with their parents. If you are paying rent I wouldn’t worry about what others say. Just concentrate on finishing the U and moving on from there. Cost are so high that people your age can’t afford houses even if they are working full time. Be grateful you got a good place to live and can concentrate on school.
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Old Aug 14, 2025, 05:49 PM
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If you are getting along well with the parent who is housing you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with continuing that arrangement for a while longer. That you are paying rent to your parent makes this arrangement beneficial for you both. I think you'ld be very foolish to move out right at the moment.

Your sensitivity and depression are a separate issue. I think staying the course, as you've set things up, makes sense. Never base your plans on what others think you should do. When people pass comments like you described their motivation is not pure. They are being catty and deserve to be thought less of.
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