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More lonely 11 47.83%
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Less lonely 2 8.70%
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About the same 8 34.78%
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Old 09-15-2021, 02:15 PM   #21
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My county EVENTUALLY provided bus and uber rides for vaccines. I just waited until the shot came to a drugstore that i had a regular bus line to.

That was another problem - wait in the parking lot for your turn? Again, assuming everybody has a car. Do the public health people only consider the top 1 or 10 or 50 percent? You would think they have a chapter on ALL factions of society.

They made such a big deal of posting signs that bill and melinda gates gave your library these computers, but then we were the "kids" that were forgotten in the divorce.
I'd see horrifying scenes on the news of lines literally miles long as people waited. And in the heat, with a/c running if your car has a/c. Yeah I think the government has "tunnel vision" or they turn a blind eye to things. It looked like a Third World country last year. And stlll does with how divided and ugly a matter of life or death became! What's this about hospital staff resigning over vaccine mandate, so there's not enough staff to care for women delivering babies??? Then they have to drive to a hospital miles away....IF they can drive or have someone to drive them!!!

I've convinced myself they want to turn the U.S. into a country of rich people.

I waited until it was available from my own health care provider. I wasn't in the "priority" group either. You need tech to use Uber or Lyft. I didn't have a smartphone then but even now that I do, I'm not comfortable with the idea of using them.

Over a YEAR into this, they finally implemented something for people who are homebound and can't drive. They had mobile clinics, night clinics since not everyone can go during the day, call centers for people to CALL and get an appointment that way since they don't have or don't know how to use technology.

Hard to believe, even during this crisis, some employers don't give people time off to get a COVID test/shot or a day off to recover from possible side effects.

I like your comment on kids that were forgotten in the divorce. That's people with no technology. I'm using a laptop I borrowed from the library, but they didn't implement this until AFTER the library was open FINALLY in April! But they are only giving people an hour on the computer now, and they are socially distanced so not each machine is available anymore. Thankfully it isn't busy, as fewer computers are open for use.

I've gotten off topic as this was supposed to be about loneliness, but it's all tied together. We're so tech heavy and tech reliant, yet when the **** hit the fan so many people were abandoned.


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Old 09-17-2021, 03:56 PM   #22
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Covid had made me feel much lonelier. I guess you could say I've been shielding due to covid. I live in an apartment building with a lot of blind corners and very few of my neighbours wear a mask. I always wear my mask, but it still makes me nervous just taking out the garbage. I'm double vaccinated now, but with these new variants and the fact that I'm over 50 and fat with asthma, I worry that if I were to contract covid I'd get really sick. I do all my shopping online for delivery from couriers or curbside pick up with local stores. My husband picks up the curbside stuff....so I'm not even leaving my home for that.

I was really isolated due to social anxiety and depression, for several years, but in 2019 I began really pushing myself to get out there. Just simple things like attending a few support groups, and getting to the dentist for the first time in 4 years. Getting out for much needed walks stuff like that. Covid really set me back. I don't have any friends, so there was no one to talk to on the phone, so I really depend on a little friendly small talk with cashiers and people in line for positive social interaction. I'm a homebody/introvert, but I like people and small talk and I miss that very much. My husband has Aspergers and he's not really into conversation of any kind and he doesn't like doing things with other people - including me. As much as I love him and I'm glad when he's home from work, I often feel lonelier when he's here. I do my best to be upbeat and friendly and funny and talk about things that interest him, but I often get not much in the way of a response and nothing in the way of reciprocation. So not being able to see people outside of my home has been really painful.

I miss going to the thrift shop and book stores, or just browsing in department stores. These stores are open, and most still have mask mandates...but my city a hub for all the anti-mask and anti- vax protesters, and there have been several large protests in my city, and aggressive confrontations of these people towards shoppers and the unfortunate sales clerks and cashiers just doing their job.

The weather and air quality have improved,( we had some pretty awful wildfires here) and I think this upcoming week I'm going to force myself to get out - as hard as that may be...I just really miss people, and I'm so sick of being stuck inside.
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More lonely. I donít work right now where I got most of my social interactions. I talk mainly to my mom and my therapist. Iím ok being on my own though but lately Iíve been lacking some serious mental health support that I need badly.
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I live in an apartment building with a lot of blind corners and very few of my neighbors wear a mask.

My husband has Aspergers and he's not really into conversation of any kind and he doesn't like doing things with other people - including me. As much as I love him and I'm glad when he's home from work, I often feel lonelier when he's here.
Some of my neighbors don't wear them either. A few never did AT ALL, even when this all started. We also have a lot of "blind corners" and so many doors to stairwells that just trap dead air in that area.

I'm so sorry to read about being lonely even with a spouse around.
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Thank you, Owl I really appreciate your response.

I am so sorry about how cut off you were early in the pandemic. I thought of people like you often.

Before I was married I was in same situation. I lived on a meagre disability income, so I could not afford the internet or a cell phone or even cable, and the library was a lifeline for me. I don't know how I would have coped had there been a pandemic then. So you have my sympathies, it must have been awful for you

We are still a low income household, no savings, just one car, no smart phone, but we do at least have a car and the internet, so I'm aware of how much more fortunate than many we've been through all this.
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Thank you, Owl I really appreciate your response.

I am so sorry about how cut off you were early in the pandemic. I thought of people like you often.

Before I was married I was in same situation. I lived on a meagre disability income, so I could not afford the internet or a cell phone or even cable, and the library was a lifeline for me. I don't know how I would have coped had there been a pandemic then. So you have my sympathies, it must have been awful for you

We are still a low income household, no savings, just one car, no smart phone, but we do at least have a car and the internet, so I'm aware of how much more fortunate than many we've been through all this.
Thank you. I'm glad SOMEBODY did, though it seems the government did not. Not even my so-called "friends" offered to look up stuff for me or let me use their Internet so I could get my MEASLY stimulus checks. Eventually I asked a mere acquaintance if I could use her laptop to get on IRS's site and she said yes. If it wasn't for her, I'd never have gotten my money since one had to GO ONLINE. At least the federal government had the sense to create something for non-filers, but states have not done the same thing.

That portal or page to get the stimulus is now closed, so good thing I got my info in when I did.

I'm still single and still poor. My savings are getting very low, and I don't qualify for any "rental assistance" or any so-called "assistance." They make it hard to even qualify; I wonder how much they REALLY want to help people. My only "consolation" is hearing how little of the money even reached people, and that renters aren't paid directly. The landlord has to voluntarily agree to signing up for this program.

My small retirement is a lifeline, but it's an IRA. I don't know what I would have done if the age requirement was higher. Thank my lucky stars it's 59 1/2, not 65 or even 62. I can't survive that long, with this rent. When I started it when I was in my 20's, who would have thought it'd save me, 40 years later????

If it wasn't for COVID, I'd have gotten 2 rent increases by now. They raise it every year. It took something as extreme as a pandemic to put a temporary halt on increases. But of course landlords are up in arms over it. It's just a business to them, just a check.

One of my "friends" said her house is so cluttered, unless I want to sleep on the kitchen floor. I replied, "It's better than a tent". No comment from her. I wouldn't let that happen to HER. If anything good came from this s h i t, it's finding out who my real friends are. I now have doubts about her. Not even offering help with rent or food or anything.

Still got my old car and finally a smartphone. The latter has some limitations compared to a computer, but it's something and works well for the most part......

So-called federal assistance for Internet and equipment needed for it is in such high demand, the call center is jammed. And they say it's only temporary, until the pandemic ends or they run out of money, whichever comes first. There's criteria you need to meet and only so much you can get from them of course.

After all this BS, I don't even trust the government. More trouble than it's worth, I decided to muddle through somehow.

These days I don't feel much like talking to anyone (except on PC), as my "friends" aren't objective enough or accepting enough of what I share on how I feel. I do enjoy brief interactions with the grocery cashier, bank teller, etc. Still need that contact, but real connections are hard to make and KEEP.

I didn't grow up with this tech, so I don't know how all of us would have survived without it. I mean like in 1918, the last time we had a pandemic this bad......THEY survived somehow, I mean emotionally and mentally. I don't know if they had all those lockdowns then too. But imagine if Internet didn't exist? When I was in school, no Internet or even smartphones, so if this happened then, all of us kids would be home. And education would come to a halt.


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