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More lonely 11 47.83%
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Less lonely 2 8.70%
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About the same 8 34.78%
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Old 09-03-2021, 12:26 PM   #1
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Old 09-03-2021, 12:34 PM   #2
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I feel like i am a butterfly coming out of her covid cocoon.
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I guess about the same - Iím more introverted to begin with, and due to having a key worker job wasnít given furlough, so no sealing myself away from humanity lol
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I feel like it made me realize how much I prefer to be alone and it feels like I finally just get to be my real hermit self. I often felt obligated to participate in social gatherings now I can finally say no without any pressure. I think I felt more lonely in social interactions because I knew I was faking it and it feels lonely to pretend in a group of people.
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About the same for me. My social life didn't decline any because I didn't have much all along going for me anyways.
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What has happened with covid is that I've isolated (besides the necessary store trips). Now I've isolated so much that socializing, which was always a challenge for me anyway, has become a big scary monster. I'm not reaching out to people (not that I did much before covid, but definitely a little bit more). I miss a few things, such as NAMI Connection groups. And it's still difficult for me to talk to people when we're wearing masks (which is mandated where I live). Frequently, I can't understand them, they can't understand me...clear communication is just too difficult.

So yeah, I was lonely before - now it's to the extreme.
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Iím a natural hermit. If I lived in England Iíd apply to a mansion to be their hermit. As long as I have access to books Iím fine. Having people around is stressful, Iím loving the quarantine life. I love that more things are distancing and touch less. Odd since whenever I travel people talk to me, tell me their life story, so I must be very approachable. But with a mask on less people talk to me, I love that. Although there is those that comment on my colorful masks.
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Iím a natural hermit. If I lived in England Iíd apply to a mansion to be their hermit. As long as I have access to books Iím fine. Having people around is stressful, Iím loving the quarantine life. I love that more things are distancing and touch less. Odd since whenever I travel people talk to me, tell me their life story, so I must be very approachable. But with a mask on less people talk to me, I love that. Although there is those that comment on my colorful masks.

That's interesting...I'm an introvert, but I find that people approach me easily, too.
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slightly more

it doesn't help the situation much when you fear masks, gloves, and all that other stuff
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I donít know if Iíd used the word ďlonelyĒ. Iíd say it made more stressed. Covid made my life much much harder in a sense that I have hard time seeing my family overseas. I just did in August but I donít know if theyíll lock borders again. Will I have to quarantine next or what not. Will they be able to travel? Will we? Etc I live in the state of unknown.

As about other aspects of my life, that didnít change as I work in person and donít really isolate. I do all other things within the guidelines.

I have to say I liked not having to go to certain things or socialize when donít want to because I could use covid as an excuse. It is easier that way. I am ashamed to admit but I love holidays with no gatherings
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I always been lonely
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Nothing changed at all for me. I was with 0 people to talk before the pandemic, and continued the same before
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Even before Covid I was already a solitary girl, but now I feel like I donít even remember how to socialise with someone, plus my mom never likes any of my friends, she always finds the way to keep me at home without the chance to got for a single coffee with someone. Thatís exhausting, sometimes I just wish I could live on my own.
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Hey, that's hilarious @Nammu, about applying to a mansion in England to be their hermit!!! Very pithy!!! I really suffered during COVID, tho i enjoyed it for about the first three months. But the last 13 months i was lonely and frustrated and full of anxiety. It's just so nice now to have the freedom to go out into the city and have adventures when i am well and just take a tame trip to the mall when i am only feeling okay and stay home when i am unwell, like at the moment, but know that the world outside is still available when i am ready. I've really come to treasure my weekly women's coffee social in the building where i see fun healthy assertive women and we banter and joke and have a great time and that's about all i need in the way of IRL interaction. The rest of the week i am happy in cyber-space or in vicarious socializing at the mall thru people-watching or on the bus studying my fellow riders. I especially like to see what others are wearing, mostly women, men tend to dress pretty dull. I like to see families in casual restaurants interacting. It's so heartwarming if they are kind and loving with their children and the parents with each other. I am somewhat a student of human nature, just thru observation, not so much thru interaction. I feel affection for my fellow humans if they are kind to each other. It's sooooooooooooooooooo uplifting!!!
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Face to face communication has always been challenging for me but with everyone wearing masks its even harder cos I can't work out what they're saying.


Even when I've asked nurses to wear clear screen face visor type mask when they come to do vaccines they haven't so have to take the risk they could be asymptomatic as they remove mask so I can understand them! (and of course they are standing closer to me as giving vaccine or blood test).

Deliveries aren't too bad as I can sit at other end of hall and just point to inside the door for them to put parcel down, but surprised medical staff have little awareness for needs of people with communication difficulties.

It's made me more anxious about people wanting to stop and talk when I take my dog out so been getting up at 5am all spring/summer but schools are back tomorrow and its not getting light as early here.


I've refused to go anywhere there would be others, mainly cos of fear of having to go to hospital if got covid, as with everyone in PPE it would cut off all communication for me.

Hopefully been vaccinated would mean I'd be able to stay at home to tuff it out like just having flu or something if I did get it, but these more infectious variants that can evade the vaccines are worrying!


I could possibly end up OCD too by the time this is over as thought of someone getting close enough to touch me or having to touch something someone else has touched makes me feel anxious now too.
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About the same for me. My social life didn't decline any because I didn't have much all along going for me anyways.
Unfortunately COVID is still with us. So I will say "It DOES make me more lonely". I don't have much either, but what little I had got pulled out from under me when they shut everything down.

I got abruptly cut off from the Internet since I (unwisely) relied on the library. I mean it was always there, who would have thought? And no emergency plans in place to get people online. I missed someone I email, my online friends,looking up stuff,etc. One person resorted to paper letters to me, at least the post office wasn't shut down but it was slow compared to email!

Hard to exercise too, as gym closed and it's hot here.

We are hard wired to be social, which explains a lot of it.

Now that we are "reopened", I've gotten some of my limited social interaction back but still have a feeling of malais as we are not of this yet.

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Did covid make you more or less lonely? Explain?
Forgot to say good topic and poll! Never seen this in the media. It's like American culture doesn't value connections or mental health.
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How horrifying about the library / losing your internet access. Thats my window on the world.

I think more big changes are on the way.
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How horrifying about the library / losing your internet access. Thats my window on the world.

I think more big changes are on the way.
Like that?

The changes we've had already have been killing me. I don't like change anyway, so life is always a struggle since even without COVID change keeps happening.

STUPID government immediately shut down Internet access for a lot of people. I had a few library acquaintances that said they came there for the computer, not just books. Seems the government just thought of books.

Then in the beginning of this nightmare still going on, they told people to go these websites. That's the only way to book an appointment to get tested. Then you had to drive to a mega-site. People without technology or cars fell through the cracks. I curse the government every single second daily for their handling of this crisis.
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My county EVENTUALLY provided bus and uber rides for vaccines. I just waited until the shot came to a drugstore that i had a regular bus line to.

That was another problem - wait in the parking lot for your turn? Again, assuming everybody has a car. Do the public health people only consider the top 1 or 10 or 50 percent? You would think they have a chapter on ALL factions of society.

They made such a big deal of posting signs that bill and melinda gates gave your library these computers, but then we were the "kids" that were forgotten in the divorce.
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