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Grand Member
Member Since Apr 2010
Location: Atmosphere
Posts: 943
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#21
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I act like a kid without trying or having control... I do anything to get attention from him __________________ "Tear down the wall" ![]() |
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Account Suspended
Member Since Jul 2009
Location: UK
Posts: 1,946
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#22
Actually, the people that get attracted to "needy" type people, are far from maternal, they normally are trying to fill the hole with themselves.
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Elder
Member Since Sep 2008
Location: Scotland, UK
Posts: 5,258
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#23
God guys thats very much like me.
I have work colleagues who are older than I am and they are VERY motherly towards me. People think I am younger than my friends when ironically I am older I have no idea why people want to mother me. I do not act immature or anything. I act like me!! Confused so am I. My friends have said they mother me because they feel/see/sense something that I need etc. I am still confused |
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Mental Wellness Mensch
Member Since Apr 2009
Location: I live with myself. Because that is all I can depend on. Everthing around me changes.
Posts: 3,439
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#24
Yes, I feel just as uncomfortable as they say they feel. I hate this feeling, like everybody thinks they have to take care of me.
I can't be around my roommate right now cause he just seems to automatically be irritated with me when I show my face. I get this vibe, "What do you need now, Billi?" Ugh. B. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Member
Member Since Aug 2010
Posts: 54
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#25
I can't say I've successfully changed but I do know a technique. You change your thoughts. Pick a mantra word like 'beware' or 'dominant' or 'strength' and when you see people no matter what the discussion is this word is floating around in the back of your mind. It changes your body language and your responses to people on a subconscious level. For emotional abusers I use 'beware'. For a boss or authority figure I would use 'strength'. Whatever is the image you want to project of yourself. Make sure you are speaking of yourself and not the person you're with. Sounds nutty but fight fire with fire.
Good luck. Good post by the way. |
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Still Alive
Member Since Apr 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 2,853
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#26
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![]() __________________ We must love one another or die. W.H. Auden We must love one another AND die. Ygrec23 ![]() |
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