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Junior Member
Member Since Jan 2011
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Jan 29, 2011 at 03:12 AM
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My name's Sarah and I'm 25...
Ever since I was a teenager, my parents took care of my needs, never had to get a job, even at the age of 21, when I still lived with them rent-free (chores done of course). I moved out at 22 and lived with a bf for about 1 year, he took care of me, never minded that I didn't have a job...not that I was actively looking for one in the first place. We broke up and then I met this wonderful guy at this local bar, move in literally the next day. He's 18 years older than me, so he felt it necessary to take care of my needs. Sometimes I feel grateful, but other times I feel completely shameful, and childish. I've never had a job and I'm 24, no driver's license yet either. It's not like I'm lazy, but I feel like I need these types of people and relationships or I will feel so empty, even crazy without them. Ugh....the pain |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2010
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Jan 29, 2011 at 06:55 AM
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oh love, dont feel depressed about it. But do figure out what u want to be doing. Do u want a drivers licence?
A job? Some study? what do u enjoy? What are u passionate about? Dont hold yourself up in comparison to others, u only get one life, live it, its all yours! But i sympathise |
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Member Since Jun 2011
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Jun 26, 2011 at 07:14 PM
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i have the problem were i depend on people like that to i sturggle a lot and im only 17 i wish i could tell you how to fix it but im not really sure ive always depended on someone
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Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Texas
Posts: 212
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Jun 29, 2011 at 09:41 PM
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 for the longest time it was ok to rationalize it to myself, because i was going to school, & my ADD was causing me to struggle more than i used to before. i wasn't even able to go full-time anymore. but i just graduated in may, finally, after a bazillion years, & while at first it seemed like it would be great to just be home & take care of things that got neglected when i was in school, i now feel like a total mooch & loser. i feel like i have no job prospects & no future outside of the house.it's definitely not helping my depression. it's especially hard for me because i was raised by a very strong woman who never wanted her daughters to be dependent on anyone. for the longest time, i was just like that, & i loved it! i loved being free & not afraid of taking care of myself. but over the years i have found that i struggle more & more with just basic care for myself. i don't know what's wrong with me. anyway, sorry for stealing your thread. it just made me feel like opening up. |
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