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Hello....is anyone out there? I'm new here....WOW....I've finally found people who are just like me! I learned that I have Dependent Personality Disorder. I haven't been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but read about this disorder in Wikipedia of all places! My problem is being too dependent on men. I've been married four times and all but three of my marriages have been very unhappy, yet I get scared when I think about being alone. I've gone from one marriage to another, usually on the rebound because I don't have enough confidence to rely on myself. I'm in an unhappy marriage now and have been with this man for 7 years,7 months. It's amazing how much crap I'll take from a man just because I have low self-esteem. I've been thinking about leaving my current husband for almost two years now. I allow myself to be a doormat for the men I've been married to along with being a doormat for employers. I haven't worked in 18 months but when I was working I would do anything to please my employer. I'm quite miserable being this way and wish I could change.

Hello....is anyone out there? I'm new here. I learned that I have Dependent Personality Disorder. I haven't been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but I finally know why I'm so dependent. My problem is being too dependent on men. I've been married four times and all but three of my marriages have been very unhappy, yet I get scared when I think about being alone. I've gone from one marriage to another, usually on the rebound because I don't have enough confidence to rely on myself. I'm in an unhappy marriage now and have been with this man for 7 years,7 months. It's amazing how much crap I'll take from a man just because I have low self-esteem. I allow myself to be a doormat for the men I've been married to along with being a doormat for employers. I haven't worked in 18 months but when I was working I would do anything to please my employer. I'm quite miserable being this way and wish I could change. I'm so confused!

Hi Ladytee, its good to hear from you I was diagnosed with a dpd last october. Ive had cognitive analytical therapy from a psychologist. It was very useful. Now I'm having group psychotherapy to try to continue with the progress that I made in CATtherapy. I live in England by the way.

Ive had 2 long term relationships. My psychologist told me that the reason that I get abused by my partners is that I am so desperate to keep them that I allow them to behave in any way becos I show that I love them unconditionally and will put up with anything. Im without a partner at the moment but Im going thru hell becos I'm so frightened that my recent ex will find someone else. Im in a deeper depression than Ive been for months becos of it. I cant imagine what I need to do to start a normal relationship where I dont get abused. I dont think that anyone would want me anyhow becos I'm fat and depressed.

Im glad you posted. I was a bit disapointed that more people didnt post hear. I guess youve been waiting for a reply.

You say that you are thinking of leaving your current partner. I cant advise you about that becos Ive never managed to do it without having someone else waiting for me or going into crisis.

Take care, best wishes
DP1

im also dependent but mainly on my friends because i think im to fat and ugly to get a guy and every guy i dated was a jerk.....i hope that things turn out okay...i have to agree with dependent1...it really hard to leave someone...i always have to have somene else to fall on...i hope everything goes okay good luck