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Location: Columbia,MO
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I seriously have a big issue with being to Dependant on my own mother. I am turning 30 in less then a week.
and all of my money comes from my mother, I am getting a delivery job from dominos probably in a few weeks. And I think if I get a stable source of my own income I would be doing better. I try not to take advantage of my mother but some to degree I have to pay money for certain things I know I would not be able to pay for on my own. I know that finding a job or maybe even more then one. To have a source of income to be coming in. But to be honest I don't know how to get myself to be more independent from her. what kind of mental affirmations or other things could I do to work with going against my dependent personality disorder. __________________ Dx:OCD, AD/HD-C and ADD kinda both, General Anxiety Disorder, Separation Anxiety Disorder,Abandonment Anxiety, Cycothymic disorder, or mixed bipolar, Border Line Personality Disorder,Histonic Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality disorder, eating disorder ]Rx:Lamotrigine 25mg twice a day for my mood stablizer as well as I am on Escitalopram 10mg 1 daily, Buspirone 3 times daily 10mgs VT Student, CNA student, working HHA for my father I think of you everyday |
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jimmy rich, tealBumblebee
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Location: USA
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Honestly, I don't know what to tell you. I totally get it, I have DPD as well, and my mother is my vice as well but it seems so hard to just sever the ties. I would suggest attempt making small steps - changing the little things that you know you could do alone and perhaps that will give you the motivation to attempt independance in bigger areas. Also, if you do get a job, besides the financial benefit - the responsibility and independence you'll feel in having it could give you the confidence to make even more changes. Starting is the hardest part.
__________________ A majorly depressed, anxious and dependent, schizotypal hypomanic beautiful mess ...[just a rebel to the world with no place to go...] |
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jimmy rich
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my biggest issue is truly that I just have a lot of things psychologically I am trying to work on....
and fix and at times its all really overwhelming..but I know if I put forth the effort I can do it..and accomplish what I want in my life. __________________ Dx:OCD, AD/HD-C and ADD kinda both, General Anxiety Disorder, Separation Anxiety Disorder,Abandonment Anxiety, Cycothymic disorder, or mixed bipolar, Border Line Personality Disorder,Histonic Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality disorder, eating disorder ]Rx:Lamotrigine 25mg twice a day for my mood stablizer as well as I am on Escitalopram 10mg 1 daily, Buspirone 3 times daily 10mgs VT Student, CNA student, working HHA for my father I think of you everyday |
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jimmy rich, tealBumblebee
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Location: California
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Kala:
All I can tell you is what I did. I put in a lot of time and effort on Self Esteem work and attended a lot of support group meetings where I learned 1000s of coping skills and self help things. Doing some Spiritual explorations has helped as well so now I am a much stronger and independent person than when I fearfully and desperately entered Recovery long ago. good luck becoming a strong and independent person, jim |
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