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Default Dec 13, 2013 at 09:12 PM
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I seriously have a big issue with being to Dependant on my own mother. I am turning 30 in less then a week.

and all of my money comes from my mother, I am getting a delivery job from dominos probably in a few weeks. And I think if I get a stable source of my own income I would be doing better.

I try not to take advantage of my mother but some to degree I have to pay money for certain things I know I would not be able to pay for on my own.

I know that finding a job or maybe even more then one. To have a source of income to be coming in.

But to be honest I don't know how to get myself to be more independent from her.

what kind of mental affirmations or other things could I do to work with going against my dependent personality disorder.

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Default Dec 18, 2013 at 05:46 PM
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Honestly, I don't know what to tell you. I totally get it, I have DPD as well, and my mother is my vice as well but it seems so hard to just sever the ties. I would suggest attempt making small steps - changing the little things that you know you could do alone and perhaps that will give you the motivation to attempt independance in bigger areas. Also, if you do get a job, besides the financial benefit - the responsibility and independence you'll feel in having it could give you the confidence to make even more changes. Starting is the hardest part.

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Default Dec 19, 2013 at 02:13 AM
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my biggest issue is truly that I just have a lot of things psychologically I am trying to work on....
and fix and at times its all really overwhelming..but I know if I put forth the effort I can do it..and accomplish what I want in my life.

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Default Aug 23, 2014 at 11:21 PM
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Kala:
All I can tell you is what I did. I put in a lot of time and effort on Self Esteem work and attended a lot of support group meetings where I learned 1000s of coping skills and self help things. Doing some Spiritual explorations has helped as well so now I am a much stronger and independent person than when I fearfully and desperately entered Recovery long ago.
good luck becoming a strong and independent person,
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