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I really don't know if I'm in the right place! As a child, I had $600.00+ worth of tests done on my son by a psychologist. They came up with ADHD, COMBINED TYPE NOT OTHERWISE SPECIFIED! SINCE THEN, he has been in numerous psychiatric facilities, substance abuse tx, job corps, signed over to the state of LOUISIANA before that; lived at a place called Christian Acres in Tallulah, LA. He is 21 yrs old and is just now learning what telling the truth is, as he used to believe his own lies to the point he no longer knew he was lying . He has walked off every job due to anger. As a child, I placed unreasonable, age inappropriate expectations on him that set him up for failure later in life. We have had extensive counseling as a family. He is living at home, no job and no way to get there due to our fixed income. Please help me to help him. He also has some depression. He told me what is in quotes when he was drunk and coming down on meth.
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I can only share my own experience with you. When I was young, I was TOO honest and got hurt a lot for blurting out my truths until I finally learned to LIE, like the other kids in the family, who all got off the hook when being naughty, by just lying about it! I soon noticed that their parents & my parents were more satisfied with our lies and didn't punish me (they were very abusive) if I told lies instead of embarrassing truths so, I became quite good at lying to my parents and everyone. IT WORKED PERFECTLY & I was soon enjoying the perks all the other LYING kids were enjoying, so that was my code and policy from then on! Now I can see that the very bad and disrespectful relationship that my abusive and negligent parents created directly set me up to be a HUGE liar to avoid their blistering punishments. We were ALL the hapless VICTIMS of bad and inadequate parenting more than any other influence - including peer influences! Peer pressures all happened later in life after our parents had set us up to be so corrupt and dishonest! Quote:
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