[gingerkat]

I'm too trusting, almost to a fault. The other day I swore that I would never trust anyone again. I've been really hurt by someone I trusted and fear that I will turn cold to others. I've always had a kind and generous heart, but now I feel so angry. I need to find somewhere in the middle.

Any suggestions?

[Pomegranate]

Trust, but verify. There is nothing wrong with checking out what other people tell you. If they have nothing to hide they should not mind. Ask questions. Keep checking your gut. No matter what your head tells you, trust your gut. Go slow when starting a new friendship/relationship. Good luck!

[uhhidk]

gingerkat

People are hard to trust, I know, I've been there. I definately agree with Pomegranate, you should verify what has been said. It's not wrong to trust someone who's proven to you that they can be trusted.

Trust takes time to build up and can be shattered in moments. Try to find the strength to rebuild that trust in new friendships.

Lots of hugs!!

[A_Long_ways]

I've delt with the same issues. I was too trusting for too long and got burned in too many situations because of it. My policy now is earn my trust. I take people on an individual basis. I guess it kinda works like this. When I first meet you, you start at zero. From there, your actions determine your place on the scale. Now, I'm not saying I actually have a scale written out or memorized for people, just saying that to blindly mistrust is just as bad as to blindly trust.

I can sympathize being very hurt by someone you've invested a lot of trust into. One of my best friends, or so I thought, betrayed me in an unforgivable way and I haven't talked to him since. There's nothing wrong with feeling angry or violated because someone broke your trust, infact I'd recommend it. If you don't get angry when your trust is violated, you'll set yourself up in the position for it to happen all over again.

I know how ya feel, and I know there's not much I can say to weaken the blow. Hope you feel better.

[turquoisesea]

Originally Posted by Pomegranate

Trust, but verify. There is nothing wrong with checking out what other people tell you. If they have nothing to hide they should not mind. Ask questions. Keep checking your gut. No matter what your head tells you, trust your gut. Go slow when starting a new friendship/relationship. Good luck!

Trusting is a skill. Learning what to trust and why is even more of an important skill. I'm still learning, keep tring

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Just don't let the actions of one or a few destroy a loving heart that has so much to give to so many

[lonegael]

((((gingercat))))) You risk sealing yourself off from all the people out there who actually care by reacting to this person and perhaps people like her /him in this way. Don't let the jerks out there make you forego what's good in life too. Maybe you need to take some time for yourself for a while, that might be good, but don't make it a lifelong plan. It will leave you very lonely and even more vulnerable in the long run, hon. Huggs

[Naturefreak]

Gingercat

Anyone is capable of going from a trustworthy person to someone who can't be trusted. Just my opinion. Try not to let it get you angry.
I have that problem myself . I guess it's human nature.