[CK23]

Hey all...
I feel the word 'negative' is taken out of context by most people... Why don't people consider that when someone refuses to join a crowd or go to a place he or she doesnt enjoy then the latter is being realistic and practical... Negativity 'is not' when you decide not to go somewhere you 'dont' enjoy going to but negativity is rather when 'you do' enjoy something and then dont do it cos you're feeling the blues... There's a fine line...I've been through many experiences when people labelled me as a pessimist for being too ordered and not hanging out late... i mean does it really make sense to call someone a pessimist if they refuse to enjoy the company of those who enjoy 'hazing' freshmen at high school or bullying a new employee at work and are people who stand up for good values and only enjoy good and harmless fun pessimists as well!

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by CK23

...does it really make sense to call someone a pessimist if they refuse to enjoy the company of those who enjoy 'hazing' freshmen at high school or bullying a new employee at work and are people who stand up for good values and only enjoy good and harmless fun pessimists as well!

No, that's not a "pessimist"; that's a mature, moral individual.

Thank you for bringing up this issue, CK23. "Negativity" and "realism" are words whose frequent use dilute their meanings. It would be a worthy exercise to discuss what they truly mean when talking about mental illness and/or social relationships.

Originally Posted by CK23

Hey all...
I feel the word 'negative' is taken out of context by most people... Why don't people consider that when someone refuses to join a crowd or go to a place he or she doesnt enjoy then the latter is being realistic and practical... Negativity 'is not' when you decide not to go somewhere you 'dont' enjoy going to but negativity is rather when 'you do' enjoy something and then dont do it cos you're feeling the blues... There's a fine line...I've been through many experiences when people labelled me as a pessimist for being too ordered and not hanging out late... i mean does it really make sense to call someone a pessimist if they refuse to enjoy the company of those who enjoy 'hazing' freshmen at high school or bullying a new employee at work and are people who stand up for good values and only enjoy good and harmless fun pessimists as well!

I'm not going to get into my feelings about this BUT I believe we should all bit a of both - pesimistic, as it keeps our eyes open and prepared

[Naturefreak]

(((CK23))
No advice , just hugs.

[Sabrina]

I tend to agree that realism is not always negativity. I have been accused of being negative and pessimistic when all I am doing is being practical and realistic in looking after my own interests.