[cafegrrrl]

My counselor suggested I look into a group home to get out of my house. I miss not having my own place and for now, a group home is the closest I can get to my own place. I can't afford rent on my own.

The problem is I live with my mom. She hasn't been able to drive since Feb and still can't. My dad lives and works about 6 hrs away so he isn't home much. My mom doesn't really have any friends. I don't think my parents would take it very well if i told them i was moving out of their house and into a group home.

And, I need them to help me out financially every once in a while. I pay them back when I borrow money. I don't think they'll be very helpful if and when I do go to a group home or wherever. The group home thing may or may not be an option. I have to meet with whomever and see what the rules and etc are. So, it may turn out that it won't even be an option once i do look into it.

I just can't take living at home anymore. I'm 35 and I need my own life. I don't plan on moving out of the area so i'd still be around to take my mom to her appointments, errands and etc. I just feel soooooo trapped living in my parent's house. I think i'd be alot more independent and would be better able to find work and etc if i weren't living with the parents.

I also started the process for applying for disability today, since my counselor suggested it a few weeks ago. Assuming i qualify, that would probably help me to afford my own place again. I just don't know if i 'd be able to afford it all on my own again like i once could.

I can't stop thinking about it and I want to talk to my mom but i have the feeling crap will hit the proverbial fan if i mention it. Even if i tell them i need my own life, i don't think they'll be too happy about it. And they can be mad if they want to be. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm truly miserable living at home and have been here now for about 8 years. Its beyond time for me to get out.

I don't know what to even ask or whatever. I just need to vent I guess. Anyone else been in a similar situation? if so, what did you do and how did it turn out? I think that without my paren'ts help, Id definitely be homeless now.

There is some irony here. The more usual scenario is the parents cannot wait until the child is gone.

My suggestion for you to call the number for information at your state capital and ask to be directed to someone who may advise you about any assistance available to a disabled person. You may find you are entitled to housing assistance, food stamps, job retraining, medical care, etc.

Good luck.

[cafegrrrl]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

There is some irony here. The more usual scenario is the parents cannot wait until the child is gone.

My suggestion for you to call the number for information at your state capital and ask to be directed to someone who may advise you about any assistance available to a disabled person. You may find you are entitled to housing assistance, food stamps, job retraining, medical care, etc.

Good luck.

i'm in the process of finding out if i qualify for disability...i have to play the waiting game to see if i qualify for housing...i just got food stamps today though...

[BeautifullyMistaken]

A group home might be a good alternative. However, when you say group home, are you referring to a place with medical staff (people who deal with those who suffer from a mental illness) or are you referring to a long term place to live? Even though your parents may not like it, you have to do what you think is best for you. They might be sad and/or upset, but you need to take care of yourself as well. If you are depressed and can't find a place, maybe you can temporarily admit yourself into inpatient care. They have round the clock therapists there to help you along with group discussions as well. Or if you don't want inpatient, you can do outpatient or even local support groups.