[catch]

My son is on the verge of a breakdown. He's depressed, a major depression, yet he won't admit it. He recently quit his job due to harassment. The man who harassed him is my son's target for a lot of anger. I'm really afraid he is going to try to hurt his ex-boss or himself. I could really use some advice. We are doing all the right things. I know about depression, I've suffered with it for 30 years. But he demonstrates a lot of anger with the depression and that scares me. How do I prevent him from doing something stupid?

[lonegael]

((((Catch)))))) Has he given you detailed plans for any vengeance on his boss? soemtimes men who are depressed channel the negative feelings into anger and act out rather than turn it inward that way women do.
You mentioned that you have also had depressive problems. Do you see a therapist? If so, this would be an improtant thing to bring up to him or her. I don't know what state you are in, but in some cases therapists have to report information they get if there is a clear and present danger to a third (or fourth) party. At the very least, you would get some information closer to the source than me.
If you don't have a therapist right now, it might be a good Idea to get in touch with one. This is a horribly upsetting time for you as well, and it would be good to get some support IRL.
Finally, if push comes to shove, you might want to call 1) a suicide hotline (some of the same aggressive impulses in what your son is doing are also present duing suicidal periods for some people) might have measures you can take in your situation, 2) see if you can't get your son to an emergency room 3) if you cannot do this call the police.
I'm sorry I can't do more, but I'm sure there are others here who have better information than I do. I wish you well,dear, and please, get help, you should not be trying to deal with this alone. HUGGGS

In the USA (and I expect elsewhere) there is an involuntary commitment process for those who are mentally ill and a danger to themselves or others. If your son will not voluntarily get help, I wanted to remind you this process is available.

Good luck.