[akshayag]

its almost been a year since my gf broke up with me, i still can't get over her. its soo pathetic, i disgust myself. the thoughts of her, never leave my head, old memories keep circling around my head. and the thoughts/images of her with her new bf make me sick to my stomach. depression comes and goes, things happen around me, life goes on, but she doesn't leave my head....WTFFF....i m sooo tired of this whole thing...tired, depressed, not wanting to give a damn about anything else in my life...

can some make all this go away please??? i am ready to do give anything...

[Rohag]

Hi, Akshayag! I can't help you, but others here can. Also, make your way over to the Relationships & Communication Forum.

About the best I can do is this Google search: getting over broken relationship

Given the duration of your post-breakup trauma, consider therapy if your situation permits.

[Mike_J]

You never get over something like that (at least I never could, hopefully your differant), they say time heals all wounds but that is crap. There are a couple of women I never got over, but after a while I'm glad I didn't. Still hurts, but sometimes pain equels strength, and when you do find someone who will love you, truely love you, that pain will allow you to realize how special that love really is.

[hopeful57]

i have found that codependent support groups help me or some sort of
support group. you are a valuable individual without this other person.
have you tried reading something inspirational? getting out of your own head...maybe helping others?

the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. are you willing do do something different?

Hello, akshayag. You are grieving. It seems to be a truism that a loss causes a void that must be healthily filled as a palliative. Focusing on the loss simply prolongs the unpleasantry.

[Envision]

You are going through a tough time now. Do you have the resources for counseling. Maybe someone trained in relationships can help you think about things differently, which could help. I know the pattern, many of us do. We can't speed up time to make you get over it quicker, but maybe help you deal more efficiently with all the energy that goes into something like this. It hurts, and I'm sorry.

[akshayag]

as i mentioned before i want to go to India for 2-3 months, but i won't get off of work for that long unless i claim FMLA. i wanted to ask my T for this if she could sign off on my FMLA. How can i ask my T without her thinking that i am doing this only to go on vacation. I don't want her to get the wrong impression. I am really gonna be doing this for myself. also should i bring it up in our first meeting? or wait for the subsequent ones...if anyone has gone thru this please let me know.