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Old Jun 09, 2010, 08:00 PM
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Everything seemed good.....for 3 wonderful weeks. My job terminated me after only 3 weeks. Their reasoning...."i am not courteous enough". What a horrible thing to hear. Being dismissed seems to be a norm in my life, as nothing happy or good stays with me. I just feel sick. I'm too old for this.

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Old Jun 09, 2010, 08:09 PM
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Old Jun 09, 2010, 09:13 PM
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You're not courteous enough? o_O They didnt even warn you first? That sucks.

There will be other jobs *hug*

This is only a set back. Put it in perspective.
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Old Jun 09, 2010, 10:17 PM
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You're not courteous enough? o_O They didnt even warn you first? That sucks.

There will be other jobs *hug*

This is only a set back. Put it in perspective.
I was floored by their reasoning. I am a compassionate person, and I was never not courteous. I just don't know how people can be so cruel. You are right, though....I have to put it into perspective. Thanks.
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Old Jun 10, 2010, 07:15 AM
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Sorry about what happened, palmdalegirl. Good luck in finding a job.
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Old Jun 10, 2010, 07:25 AM
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Seems they would have told you that being "courteous" was in the job discription, and thay should have said something earlier, and told you that you needed to be more courteous than you already were.
I'm a boss and I can't imagine doing that to someone.
Keep your head up. We're all here for you.
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Old Jun 10, 2010, 01:45 PM
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Ahh I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you!
Was it just one person's decision?

I don't think it's fair, at all, for them to be thinking "she's not courteus enough" and to not bring it up with you, give you advice on how to do the job better. You were new and learning the ropes, how can they even expect you to be perfect at it when you've only just started? If you weren't quite 100% yet then that's soo normal and you can learn, but you need them to HELP you... and jeez, they really didn't do that!

You know, though, it seems like they have thrown this word at you without really seeing any evidence of you not being courteous, it sounds like an excuse. I was once told I was "blunt" in an assessment for a new job I had, and that I ignored the kids when they asked me to go to the toilet... and it was an absolute lie (and yet I still took it horribly personally even though I KNEW it wasn't true). I never knew why, other than that woman just took a dislike to me (she was quite mean and nor did I like her back, I was quite intimidated by her as I was only 16)

Perhaps it's something about the person who fired you. You said you ARE courteous so they basically made it up so it must be something about THEM that isn't quite 'right', perhaps jealousy, or feeling threatened. I don't know... but I'm sorry you had to suffer because of their mis-judgement.

I hope you're able to move on from this and not take it too personally. I'm sure you will find a better job with other co-workers who aren't spiteful like this person seems to be.
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Old Jun 10, 2010, 05:57 PM
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Ahh I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you!
Was it just one person's decision?

I don't think it's fair, at all, for them to be thinking "she's not courteus enough" and to not bring it up with you, give you advice on how to do the job better. You were new and learning the ropes, how can they even expect you to be perfect at it when you've only just started? If you weren't quite 100% yet then that's soo normal and you can learn, but you need them to HELP you... and jeez, they really didn't do that!

You know, though, it seems like they have thrown this word at you without really seeing any evidence of you not being courteous, it sounds like an excuse. I was once told I was "blunt" in an assessment for a new job I had, and that I ignored the kids when they asked me to go to the toilet... and it was an absolute lie (and yet I still took it horribly personally even though I KNEW it wasn't true). I never knew why, other than that woman just took a dislike to me (she was quite mean and nor did I like her back, I was quite intimidated by her as I was only 16)

Perhaps it's something about the person who fired you. You said you ARE courteous so they basically made it up so it must be something about THEM that isn't quite 'right', perhaps jealousy, or feeling threatened. I don't know... but I'm sorry you had to suffer because of their mis-judgement.

I hope you're able to move on from this and not take it too personally. I'm sure you will find a better job with other co-workers who aren't spiteful like this person seems to be.
Thank you very much for the words. You said it all very well, and it was very concise! I appreciate that.
Thanks for this!
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