[garden]

A guys, I tried my best. Working for two weeks on extremely short notice to put together a plan for a data conference for a new boss, the 2-day conference is done and over. The planning started with me having full control down to the next planning meeting being a micro management of items agreed upon to that point down to the new boss doesn't want this or that - and a brown-noser so far up the new boss's butt disagreeing in unison with the new boss. Speaking up for myself, questioned why the people in charge of the data were not in charge of the conference meeting instead of me. One on medical leave, the other on vacation and the other couldn't be bothered. Put together everything from presentations, to theme and theme thread throughout each topic, location, teasers, etc. Couldn't get the brown-noser, the new boss or the admin to assist. My immediate boss spoke often of the disparity to me, but that was it. So when I was asked to turn over the evaluations to the new boss, I figured something was up. One part of me says don't give it another thought. Just lump it. The other part says "getting dumped on again."

Though I couldn't get a mouse to support me, I've done my best and supported "me" and followed through on everything required for the conference, which led me to believe it was a set up to have written follow up/fodder. I kept thinking "I'm a good person. There is nothing wrong with me. There's a reason for me regardless of the behavior and remarks." I even dismissed, until I got angry, that fact that everytime I facilitated and kept attendees on time, the new boss decided to ask more questions, boosted the others to ask more questions, had a person to present that was not supposed to present, ran over on the time, instead of taking me aside, dismissed attempts to keep them on track and generally did everything possible to prevent success. Once angry, I just walked away. No one helped with packing up, clearing up, etc. This is where I think I've lost it. There is something that I don't see. What is it about me that keeps me getting this kind of treatment.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by garden

...which led me to believe it was a set up.... There is something that I don't see.

Well, Garden, you may not see everything, but I think your instincts are probably correct. Based on your account of the conference, I'm tempted to say one or more folks in your organization have (or think they have) an interest in your (or someone's or anyone's) failure. (Or, are they just being cruel...?)

How long and where have you experienced similar?

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Well from what you have said you did you should continue to pat yourself on the back. Bosses like that and the brown nosers usually end up out of a job rather than moving further up the line.

What I think you should do is add it to your resume and look for another job. You see what you have done is make the boss look good...he has obviously noticed that you are a worker and people like that use workers to better their own position. Don't give him the plan or paperwork for him to show his boss and make him look good; just tell him it's a surprise...

You did great...ignore their crap I agree with Rohag he wants you to have self esteem issues to keep you from feeling like you can do his job

Head up you did good,

Rhiannon

[garden]

I am looking and just made the decision to go for something that will make me happy and with less expectation. Just want to do a job without the politics. Sometimes the things that come to you while you are thinking things through are so funny, you get a quick "pick me up." The brown noser was so far up the boss's butt no toilet paper needed .

I gotta pull a rabbit out of my hat and soon!!!!!

[garden]

Experienced from the work place "mean girls" often. More I ignore the more upset they become. I'm much older and more less expressive, don't need the drama and finally don't care. I'm tired of it all.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Well garden you deserve another pat on the back! I am so glad that you are able to ignore them. I really hope you find that job garden...

Rhiannon

[Naturefreak]

Garden
Hope things get better soon.

[garden]

Took off for a couple of days to compensate for all the time in preparation. Called at home to say that I need to take vacation days. New boss was looking for me to discuss "rave" reviews on conference evaluations . . . duh uh?!?!? Why would I want them now and why should I believe anything at this point? Again, laughter is it. OK it comes down to "I did your job and you wanted to remove the evaluations that were negative for you." I can still see the canary feathers fluttering in her mouth (ha). Oh wow there's fluff on the finger nails.

Something tells me I'm going to see a lot of backtracking on the way out. There's a banana on that peel, one butt cheek is off the chair and the pickles on the sandwich aren't dill! Guys thanks for letting me rant. Going to crawl back under my rock.