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Sep 24, 2005, 07:40 PM
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My mom always did everything for me. If I needed help, she would help me out. Now since she died I have no help. My dad won't help me the way she did. I ask for help and he refuses to help me. Like when I needed support he was there for me as long as he did not have a gf. Now that he has a gf, he refuses to help me out.
My father has turned into a man that went from helping me out all the time to barely acknowledging me. I'm the only kid he has that asks for anything from him. I was never taught to be an adult, I was only taught how to be a child. Now dad expects me to be an adult immediately. I can't do it! I feel so overwhelmed with grief and pressure from everyone to do it all by myself when I do not have the resources to do everything by myself. I do not how to go about being an adult when I've never had to be...mom was always there to take care of me. I thought my dad would take over her role as a friend and helper, but he refuses to since he got this gf.
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Sep 24, 2005, 08:06 PM
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((((((((lexi))))))))))) i would say that your father has determined that it's time for you to begin growing up from what you've explained. as parents, we have to decide when it's time for the "next step" for ourselves and our children. i think your father has decided that it's time he helped you to become more independent.
embrace that, sweetie. indepence can be an awesome and freeing experience in so many ways. i know it's scary, but it sounds like it's going to be happening for you...to a degree. he sounds like he's doing it slowly and helping you along the way. gl, hon. kd
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Sep 24, 2005, 08:27 PM
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so what do I do about finding food?
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Sep 24, 2005, 08:35 PM
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Food pantries, Salvation Army, and local churches often have food options for those in need. Check the resources in your area. You might be able to find something there. Is there something you don't need anymore that you could sell? I believe donating plasma pays money. There is a post about it in the classified section.
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Sep 24, 2005, 08:47 PM
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Sep 24, 2005, 09:19 PM
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(((((((((lexi))))))))))
ask your dad about groceries this time. then plan for the next time, knowing that he's weaning, it seems. you do have a regular source of income? one that you can budget? let me know. kd
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Sep 24, 2005, 09:38 PM
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See if there is a local St. Vincent DePaul Food Pantry in or near your area. They are super and have helped me out in a pinch.Oh yeah... and you might see if there is a Kiiwannis club or org. in your area as well.
They can give you cards that are similar to debit cards. What a wonderful idea. I am in the N.E. Ohio area.That is the way they help out where I am at. Good luck! ~Dottie
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