[rm3273]

in my family i have my mother who is so hard headed shes always putting me down. i feel embarrassed when she does so i try to joke about it but it really affects my mood. my father on the other had gives me what i want but i feel bad because he works so hard...watching him make me depressed and i wish i could help but i cant help my self... there is no such thing as a conversation... its always an argument...my dad hate when me and my mother fight that why half the time i let her do what she wants so he wont get stressed out....but i beginning to lose my MIND! pls help how should i go about communicating with them..my dad is starting to get mad at me and now i feel like if i was to run away or just disappear life would be easier for them....but i know i never would or hope

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Rm3273!

It seems your sadness and anger are telling you something. The following is from the Gale Encyclopedia of Children's Health, Family Therapy:

TRIANGULAR RELATIONSHIPS. Family systems theory maintains that emotional relationships in families are usually triangular. Whenever two members in the family system have problems with each other, they will "triangle in" a third member as a way of stabilizing their own relationship.

Though I believe you might benefit from talking to a trained counselor, I strongly suspect your unhappiness is entangled with your parents, their personalities and problems, and the roles you all are playing in your family. If you do get a chance to talk to someone, consider giving them the "big picture" -- including family.