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Mar 17, 2011, 02:02 PM
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my father just went off on me about how much of a burden I have been and all that they have done for me and how I should be so grateful and what an awful person I am and how I have no one and lots of other awful mean things. all this because I brought home some stuff to make a sandwich for lunch for us and when he didn't like the pesto I bought and said he outright did not like it, I said that he was being too critical. He then went on to ask if I need to hear only good things all the time and how I will be crying and in despair over how I have been after my parents die. no one understands my depression.
I feel awful right now. |
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#2
Mar 17, 2011, 02:57 PM
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I'm sorry you feel so hurt by the words of others. Be gentle with yourself. People usually say mean things when they are upset or hurt or confused. Were you able to understand why he said those things? Sometimes if we can understand why someone is so hurt or angry it helps us to know what to do that may help them feel better. I'm just so sorry you had to experience this pain. ((
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Mar 17, 2011, 03:13 PM
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I' so sorry Father went off on you...hopefully you can get out of the house for a while and do something good for you now!
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Mar 18, 2011, 01:01 PM
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Hello, Feary!
Pesto!? Pesto triggered your father. And you're the one with the diagnoses and disorders...  I'm sorry for the turmoil. Wishing you a piece of peace. 
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My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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Mar 18, 2011, 01:20 PM
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Well said Rohag.
That said though, I'm sorry your father is so ... well mean. What he did was just terribly mean! Hon, you are not to blame for this, your pop seems to have some of his own issues. Are his parents still alive? Maybe he's grieving over his own loss and taking it out on you? It still doesn't make it right though.
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Mar 18, 2011, 01:27 PM
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thank you everyone. and now he's been suggesting that my 2 year old daughter is more attached to my mother than to me and saying that my daughter needs my mother more than my daughter needs me, also suggesting my mother takes better care of her and how I would be nothing and nowhere without my parents, etc.
All not true...anyway, i'm over it. |
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Mar 18, 2011, 01:41 PM
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Have you tried just asking him who peed in his cheerios this morning?
 He seems to be just going out of his way to try to be a miserable old sod, I'd ask it just so see his face.
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Mar 19, 2011, 10:01 PM
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I can definitely relate to you, my mom does the same thing. She doesn't really get me. My thing is just to avoid talking to her about it, try to avoid acting out because of it. I dont know if thats the right thing for you to do, but if it gets you into trouble, then it might be. I'm not the one to say, but hang in there!!! Use your friends for comfort, i'm sure they'd be glad to help. message me if you want to talk about anything.
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Mar 20, 2011, 09:34 AM
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(((feary)))
This is so not fair. Yes, sometimes we need to hear good things - especially when you went through the trouble to bring all of those treats home. Grrr. Good for you for for responding to your dad by telling him he was being too negative. He probably didn't like that you "had a voice" and were challenging him by saying, "hey, look at this nice thing I did, can you stop complaining and say thank you?" I'm so sorry you had to put up with that. You are not alone, feary! We are here. I am sending many many good wishes your way. You are important. You have a voice. You deserve to be listened to and treated with respect. ps. I have found this book helpful, in regard to family dynamics and anger: http://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Ch...0631605&sr=1-1 Elana
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Mar 20, 2011, 10:30 PM
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thanks, all.
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Mar 20, 2011, 10:33 PM
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I'm sorry that your dad wasn't very good to be around....hope you can do something to take care of yourself.
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Apr 02, 2011, 08:54 PM
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So sad and bored
Sick of hanging by myself no friends no one around etc |
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#13
Apr 02, 2011, 11:28 PM
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(((feary)))) I know there's not much I can say to help on the sad and bored front but I do hope you feel better.
Cyran0
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My blog: http://cyran0.psychcentral.net/ Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD (childhood physical/sexual abuse), history of drug abuse. Meds: Zoloft, Lorazapam, Coffee, Cigarettes "I may climb perhaps to no great heights, but I will climb alone." -Cyrano de Bergerac |
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#14
Apr 04, 2011, 01:23 AM
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Stupid weight
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Apr 04, 2011, 01:24 AM
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Thank you Cyran0 and all
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