[emptybee15]

So, I explain all of my mental bull***t with my boyfriend to get him to understand that the s**t I do is NOT On purpose, I can't control it. I don't even bug out on him...If I'm feeling ******, I'll complain, but I don't go off on him.

So, today, I'm on lunch, there's a power outage at all the food places on this one street, now I have no time to eat before I go back to work. So, I start getting angry. He says "Well, I don't want you around me today if you're going to have an attitude and blah blah blah!" Excuse me b***h?! I'm not allowed to feel a certain way about things or complain unless YOU feel it's valid. I already told you I'm like this. Then when I stop talking and tell him everything is great and nothing's wrong, he wants to start with me about not talking to him.

WHICH ONE THE F**K IS IT?!? I swear I hate PEOPLE! They are the worst thing on the entire face of the earth. People make EVERYTHING CRAPPY! Life, the environment, the government, EVERYTHING! I hate talking to them, hearing them, looking at them, driving behind them, EVERYTHING!!!

I swear, if I could live in the forest with some bears and s**T and make some animal friends, I'd never come out.

I hope 2012 is true, because on that day, I'm going to sit w/ some popcorn and wait on a brick or something to drop on my head and take me out of this Life, that I swear is HELL, we just don't know it.

F EVERYTHING!

[Elana05]

Hi emptybee,

Yes you have a right to be pssed off that the place had to close so you didn't get to have lunch. Don't know about you but I get much pssier if I haven't eaten. Sorry to hear you had a rough day.
I know what you mean about people. They often drive me nuts.
Hope tomorrow's better for you.

[Shadow-world]

Oh dear. You're feeling terrible, Emptybee15. I'm sorry things are like this.

Yes, I can understand that anger is usually directed towards particular people. I've just spent the better part of a week letting my anger about someone eat away on me. It's been a complete waste of energy, but it's so hard to stop it, I know.
I haven't really got great advice here either.
I just have to think of Sartre's viewpoint, which encapsulates quite well what you've described above: 'Hell - these are the others' (slightly paraphrased).
Sometimes it's just so hard to live and cope with other people. I've frequently avoided any closer contact and relationships for most of my life so far partly for that reason, but that's not a very good solution either, as this can make one quite isolated and lonely.

I'd like you to see the other side, which is people being kind and loving with each other. This is true as well and I wish you to experience this very very soon.
What we feel at a particular moment won't last forever. It will pass and then we can see some beauty in others and the world again. I know this is hard to see in these situations, but hold on to this, please.

I wish you all the very best and hope that you'll have much much better days ahead!!

[Alg99]

Hope things soon improve

[Confusedinomicon]

Frankly, people do/say stupid things and self absorbed to a degree. When I say this, it includes everyone.

I tell myself this when I get upset at someone. xD

Hope you feel better.

[addcolin]

Sad you are so stressed up today - can feel it from here. Well we'll all wait for near the end of next year. . . . Meanwhile life is what happens when we're making other plans.... just have to try to flow down that river of time....
See the poem on the net called Desiderata, helps me calm down...
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[emptybee15]

Originally Posted by Shadow-world

Oh dear. You're feeling terrible, Emptybee15. I'm sorry things are like this.

Yes, I can understand that anger is usually directed towards particular people. I've just spent the better part of a week letting my anger about someone eat away on me. It's been a complete waste of energy, but it's so hard to stop it, I know.
I haven't really got great advice here either.
I just have to think of Sartre's viewpoint, which encapsulates quite well what you've described above: 'Hell - these are the others' (slightly paraphrased).
Sometimes it's just so hard to live and cope with other people. I've frequently avoided any closer contact and relationships for most of my life so far partly for that reason, but that's not a very good solution either, as this can make one quite isolated and lonely.

I'd like you to see the other side, which is people being kind and loving with each other. This is true as well and I wish you to experience this very very soon.
What we feel at a particular moment won't last forever. It will pass and then we can see some beauty in others and the world again. I know this is hard to see in these situations, but hold on to this, please.

I wish you all the very best and hope that you'll have much much better days ahead!!

I experience really nice people at work, everyone is really nice, but it leaves me feeling crappy that I don't have these types of people in my real life and what's the point in getting close to everyone when I don't know how long I'll have this job and I won't be able to see them anymore (that's my abandonment issues talking). I mean, I know I could stay friends with them even though I wouldn't work there anymore, but I have trouble keeping contact with people I'm not at leat 95% close to. I don't know...thanks for the encouragement though.

[akekaomen]

It sounds like he's the one with issues. I hate it when people treat you differently because you tell them you've got some diagnosed issues. They have issues too, but either they aren't diagnosed or their symptoms aren't interfering with their life in a "statistically significant" way.

After I told someone about my depression, that person said, "I should have seen the signs with how angry you were about this process". I said, "No, that's my general passion for my work and actually was warranted. When I'm depressed I don't say anything." People don't get the fact that the way these things show are different and that we are able to cope much of the time. Coping is just hard and takes a lot of energy, so yes, we'll have bad days/weeks (or months).

I say you're stronger for being able to get through your day than most people because of your mental illness.

[emptybee15]

Originally Posted by akekaomen

It sounds like he's the one with issues. I hate it when people treat you differently because you tell them you've got some diagnosed issues. They have issues too, but either they aren't diagnosed or their symptoms aren't interfering with their life in a "statistically significant" way.

After I told someone about my depression, that person said, "I should have seen the signs with how angry you were about this process". I said, "No, that's my general passion for my work and actually was warranted. When I'm depressed I don't say anything." People don't get the fact that the way these things show are different and that we are able to cope much of the time. Coping is just hard and takes a lot of energy, so yes, we'll have bad days/weeks (or months).

I say you're stronger for being able to get through your day than most people because of your mental illness.

I love you Ake! Not in a weird way, but I really appreciate nice, intelligent people who have REAL things to say.

[akekaomen]

Originally Posted by emptybee15

I love you Ake! Not in a weird way, but I really appreciate nice, intelligent people who have REAL things to say.

Thank you so much for saying this. I can mark it off my checklist as something I did that made me feel competent . I'm trying to reward myself for things like that to help get out of this slump.

Another way to think of people is that everyone has coping skills. Some are more effective than others. Some coping skills are harmful and cause problems. A person who acts up when angry is coping with their anger, just not in a socially acceptable way, which leads to many problems. People who work too much are coping for something. I realize now that a lot of people cope by distracting themselves with gadgets. Some coping skills are socially acceptable and others are not (leading to shame or guilt).

One coping skill I would like is to not care what people think, but I think that may cause problems too (I might do something I shouldn't LOL )

[madisgram]

bee your boyfriend is not validating your feelings.
Getting to the real meaning of validation, its simply the practice of showing respect for each person having a different opinion or point of view. Given that we all see things differently, especially in a relationship, validation provides a way for us to communicate in the common ground between us. In other words, validation is just showing the speaker that we can accept the validity of their logic, thoughts, wants, and needs (whether we share them or not) and that they are safe from attack or ridicule.-
http://www.prelationshipinfo.com/rel...on-validation/

we all have a right to our own feelings, opinions, etc. try to not let him spoil your day or anyone else for that matter. your day is your day.